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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old
      01/11/12 04:32 PM

Well, one would not "need" a study. I would just find it interesting to see if as many men feel the wrenching pull many women feel when they have to be away from their babies and toddlers for several days at a time.

And I don't think it is "okay" with most men to be away from their children for days at a time, either.

All I KNOW, and I can only speak for myself and other moms with little ones that I have met and spoken to through my years of teaching, is that the depth of feelings many moms have when the young child is not with them, did not seem to be the same as what I have seen men feel.

Yes, I have met men that have said they really miss their toddlers when the ex wife has them. BUT, the women did not "really miss" their toddlers, they always described it in very different ways. Phrases like , "I feel sick to my stomach and devastated", "I have a knot in my stomach and an emptiness I can't even describe", and "I count every hour until she is back". These are the words the moms have used when describing handing the toddlers off to the ex. Quite different, don't you think?

Yes, men can take great care of their children, I am not questioning that. But, since the millinium of time, the female has kept her babies close to nurse and nurture, and nature gave many of them an extremely strong maternal instinct so they WOULD be devasted and fight tooth and nail if anyone tried to take their young. Nature did this to insure the survival fo the species. This is programmed into most females. No judges order can change this.

Men are programed a bit differently, as their role was to hunt and protect. If they had felt the same strong need to be close to their babies, they would never have gone hunting for days at a time. They wouldn't have been able to keep their mind on the hunting, so this again insured the survival of the species.

Obviously, their are moms that can leave their kids and never look back. I am just saying, I was in the group of moms with a strong maternal instinct, and could never have let my ex take them for a week when they were babies or toddlers. I really believe it would have changed me into a raving, anger filled crazy, or drove me into a deep depression.........neither of which would have been good for our children. So, IF he had been insisting on it,....I probably would have left with them......

Edited by Eve (01/11/12 04:49 PM)

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