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Cassie23
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Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective

01/29/12 11:24 AM

I actually agree on most points, but it shouldn't really matter IMO. No parent, I believe, should be forced or made to feel as though they HAVE to contribute to their child's college education.

My H paid well over $200k in the years he paid CS for his daughter. A big chunk of those years he was paying over $1100/monthly. Once their daughter turned 18 she did move into our household. We paid for her college tuition for the first two years, but that is because we could afford to. You should NEVER put your child's college education BEFORE your retirement or the needs of the other children in your home. We do receive a small amount of CS on a monthly basis from her Mom because she is now the NCP (non cust. parent) and the CO is through NYS which allows CS through the age of 21. We also give about $30/month for college expenses (printing mostly) and $30 cash for spending. We were contributing about $80/month for extras but have cut that to $0 since at the end of the this past semester her meal plan at school had an overage. Essentially this past semester we have paid about $8k in cash towards her college education. After this year she will be in her final 2 years in which she will be mostly responsible for. The reasoning behind this is because we have given her 2 years of paid college and want to be able to do that for our children (who are 2 and 3 years away from graduating HS themselves). We need to be able to give to each as equally as possible- so the money we have will go to pay off their first two years. We also plan on swinging our extra monies towards a move down south- if the Lord allows. My step child is looking to join the Navy to pick up some of the college costs (she can join now they pay her a bonus and stipend if she signs to give three years after graduation as a nurse). She is also in the process of becoming a RA at the college which will pay for her room and board (which is HALF of the $20k yearly tuition).

Hopefully your child will look into scholarships (locally- at school and in the community), through the college he plans to attend and online. You shouldn't feel bad about your decision if you feel it is the best decision for you and your family CURRENTLY.

Our thought is that AFTER ALL our children graduate college if we can afford to- we will gift them with paying off their student loans. Each child needs to have a financial stake in their education. Believe me my SD didn't first semester and her grades started to tank...once we said we will only pay for As and Bs and you need to pay for all books...the "financial" part hit home for her too.

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Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	01/28/12 07:35 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Goodmom	01/31/12 07:40 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	02/01/12 03:18 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Goodmom	02/01/12 06:31 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	01/29/12 01:56 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Annie7676	01/29/12 12:31 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Cassie23	01/29/12 11:24 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Sadie	01/29/12 09:01 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	M5M5	01/29/12 01:09 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	01/29/12 03:32 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	javajunkiee	01/29/12 07:57 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Cassie23	01/29/12 11:43 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Anything4Love	02/14/12 12:50 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	hanzblinx	02/07/12 04:44 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	02/07/12 05:44 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	hanzblinx	02/07/12 04:14 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	MrsB	02/07/12 04:23 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	mbg13	03/12/12 11:36 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	mbg13	03/12/12 11:38 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Renny	01/28/12 10:29 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Cassie23	01/29/12 11:46 AM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Stumped10	01/29/12 02:06 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	Cassie23	01/31/12 03:44 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	youngatheart	01/28/12 09:16 PM
Re: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective	ssmom79	01/28/12 08:46 PM

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