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Re: Wanted to come back here....
      02/14/12 03:40 PM

I had a similar situation but my ex had custody based on a separation agreement I signed giving him custody (long, stupid story). My ex lived in the filthy home of another family that was eventually determined too small for all the occupants by a court social worker. My ex clearly was just being vindictive because he was hurt I asked for the separation...which was proven when all was said and done and he just got married and moved away. A new woman changed everything for him...luckily.

Don't second guess the courts. I was told which judges in my county would be most lenient, most mother oriented, most father oriented but none of it was true. Have faith that the court will look at EVERYTHING and determine what is in the best interest of the children....really. Your STBX's restriction of the children will not be looked on kindly.

Don't let what others say cause you emotional trauma. There was no greater mountain to climb than mine as I had signed a document giving my ex custody...clearly meaning that I felt he was fit to have custody. And yet with his behavior I overcame one of the biggest obstacles a person can face. If you left him, who you are seeing....none of it matters...as long as the children remain your priority.

Don't ever feel that taking the high road, being fair and equitable despite his vindictiveness will not pay off....it will...I promise.

Document all you see and hear. Save any correspondence. Emails requesting time that is denied are just as good as letters. Document what your children say. Try to leave emotion out of your documentation.

And realize one year of your life is not as long as you believe. And to spare the children will be your biggest accomplishment....

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* Wanted to come back here.... done4now 02/13/12 08:01 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... Cassie23   02/14/12 05:21 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... done4now   02/14/12 07:31 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... NikkiL   02/14/12 10:22 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... Anything4Love   02/14/12 12:42 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... MrsB   02/14/12 12:54 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... Anything4Love   02/14/12 01:17 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... done4now   02/14/12 01:47 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... Anything4Love   02/14/12 02:11 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... javajunkiee   02/14/12 10:03 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... gr8Dad   02/15/12 09:39 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... Eve   03/15/12 12:23 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... done4now   02/14/12 03:40 PM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... MrsB   02/14/12 08:02 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... M5M5   02/14/12 01:11 AM
. * * Re: Wanted to come back here.... MrsB   02/13/12 09:08 PM

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