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stbx wife wants 3rd party communication
02/20/12 05:19 AM
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First some background. I am in the beginning stages of divorce and the court issued temporary orders for custody and child support. My stbx wife did her best to limit my time with the kids as much as possible. She wanted absolutely no overnights. They are ages 7,7 and 9 and her plan was for wed 3:30-7pm and every Saturday 10-6 and e/o sunday 1-6 pm. It was crazy and the judge actually rolled his eyes when her lawyer was saying this was in our kids best interest.
In the end I got them 50% of the time which according to my lawyer this judge hands it out pretty freely when requested. The judge also approved my req to take the kids on vacation to FL for 8 days next month (spring break) to visit my family against the strong objections of the stbx. In addition the judge said that both of us could have 2 weeks uninterrupted vacation time during the summer. Holidays are split equally.
The stbx wife about had a heart attack. She she was so upset. I hated that she tried to turn into a control freak and was like this is it take or leave it. Needless to say she left court totally defeated.
I want to be up front and say that the reason my stbx is so bitter is because I had an affair and filed for divorce. I left her not the kids. I wish I did not have the affair that was the cowards way out but I do not want to be married to her. For that I should be punished and she attempted to use the kids to do that and I guess lucky for me the court saw through her and prevented that.
The stbx has come up with a new way to annoy me and bring a total stranger to me into our discussion regarding the kids. She sent me this long letter which I will spare you. The short version is that she will no longer communicate with me and then sent me this email of a total stranger who will handle communication for us. She said the only way she will have contact with me is if I repent and want to reconcile. Until then its no contact for life. At first I laughed wondering if it was some sort of joke. I don't want to reconcile. That will be a cold day in hell. We do have 3 children that we share custody of and we need to communicate for their sake. I don't want to be her friend and I have absolutely no problem making it about the kids and divorce only. In fact I prefer it that way.
I absolutely refuse to go through this 3rd party contact who is a total stranger. I talked to my lawyer and he said to continue to email her anything regarding the kids. For now all we can do is document her refusal to communicate and slowly build a case so I can get sole legal custody should I choose to go that route.
Has anyone dealt with this crazy tactic? All 3 kids play sports and we attend all their games. I don't know how her no contact for life plan will work. I think she has gone insane.
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