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Re: stbx wife wants 3rd party communication
      02/21/12 09:01 AM

I can understand that his stbex is hurt but that doesn't give her the right to limit his contact with the children. He may be a lousy spouse but that doesn't make him a lousy parent. They ARE going to have to coparent unless she wants to be the NCP.

Correction. She WANTED to limit his time. She didn't suceed. And I don't agree with everything she has done but I completely understand her wanting to. No matter how much someone wants to they CAN'T treat custody like a business arrangement. There are emotions involved as everyone has a vested interest.

I haven't told him to roll over and play dead but i think he needs to give a little on a couple of things. He should continue to contact her directly because that's what HE wants but he should also accept that she wants to communicate through a 3rd party for the time being and instead of using it against her should use it as a place to start building a co-parenting relationship. He should consider, for his children, not his STBX not going to their practices on her parenting time. This would be to keep the drama away from the kids. he should propose another solution to the mid-week drop off rather than making it an overnight. I don't think she cares as much about keeping them overnight as not seeing him. Who could blame her?

Other than "wanting" sole custody and limited parenting time for him which has already been solved in court what is she doing now to limit his time with the kids? He has 50/50 so he's no more limited than her. That's not different than a lot of people go into court wanting. You are completely right in that being a lousy spouse doesn't make a person a lousy parent, but it's kind of hard to see that when you're still in what I call the "Mac Truck" stage. (that was the period of time I wanted to run my x over with a Mac Truck). Name 10 people who are rational when they go through a divorce.

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* stbx wife wants 3rd party communication JF31 02/20/12 05:19 AM
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. * * Re: stbx wife wants 3rd party communication Debi   02/21/12 07:59 AM
. * * Re: stbx wife wants 3rd party communication M5M5   02/21/12 12:55 AM
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