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AllisonG38
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I may have to give him the kids :(
      02/22/12 01:29 PM

Hello everyone, I am new to this board and in a very difficult situation and hoping for some advice. My husband and I have been seperated since Sept 2010 (16mths), during which we have been back and fourth, but we finally ended things in December. The problem is he has left me in an absolute FINACIAL MESS that I am having a difficult time getting out of. After we seperated he left the state and went back home to live with his mother 8hrs away. Although he has a job he's refused to pay child support, although he does pay the electric, but nothing else. We are currently on State azssistance. I filed child support back in November 2010 and they tried to have him served 9mths later and him and his mother denied service. We have 2 children together, ages 4 and 6, and he has been in and out of their lives throughout the seperation, only interested in talking with them when things were going well with him and I. I also have an 11 yr old from a previous marriage.

Anyway, the house that the kids and I reside in, which is in his name soley is being foreclosed on in the next few mths, I have tried to get employment which has been extremely difficult, athough i have 2 degrees, the fact that I have been a stay at home mother for the last 7 yrs is not helping. I am currently working with a case manager who things my best bet is to go back to school. The problem is I am so physically and mentally run down, I have lost so much weight and don't sleep well due to the stressand I'm at the point where I'm not functioning too well. Ive had the toddlers by myself for 16mths with no break and don't know how much more I can tolderate.

My husband has offered to take custody of the children and my friends and family think it may be in the best interest for everyone. Problem is, If I did that I'd only want it to be a temporary basis while I get back on my feet from the financial mess hes left me in, however I do not have the money to pay for a lawyer to draw up the papers. I've discussed this with my husband and explained to him that I didn't want to do this unless it has been made legal, because once they leave the state I lose all rights. It seems to me that both him and his mother are wanting me to just hand them over so they can file for state benefits ect......... I am so upset, stressed out and confused and don't know how much more I can take. The anger I feel for this man for the hell he has put me and these children in is incredible!

Sorry so long but does anyone have any helpful advice?

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* I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38 02/22/12 01:29 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Avaya   02/23/12 08:02 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Tweeby   02/23/12 08:29 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/23/12 08:17 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/24/12 08:42 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( finz   03/01/12 04:52 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   02/24/12 02:16 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/24/12 03:07 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Buckeye   02/27/12 06:26 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Renny   02/23/12 10:10 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   02/23/12 08:16 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Renny   02/22/12 03:40 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/22/12 03:48 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   02/22/12 04:36 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/22/12 04:57 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   02/22/12 05:38 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( annieo   02/22/12 07:12 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( annieo   02/22/12 07:15 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( annieo   02/22/12 10:32 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/22/12 08:47 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( finz   03/01/12 04:53 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   03/01/12 05:34 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Runswithscissors   03/05/12 12:30 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( Eve   03/13/12 09:50 AM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( AllisonG38   02/22/12 06:59 PM
. * * Re: I may have to give him the kids :( ssmom79   02/22/12 03:02 PM

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