"And no, I am not a troll. I do not even know what exactly means to be honest."
A troll is someone who comes onto a message board and tells n outlandish story in order to get a reaction.
"If my husband works three weeks on and two off, what percent of possibility do you think he has of having my daughter those 2 weeks? I know you are all going to say "well, you havbe him for 3." What will the judge be looking for to make that determination to or not to allow that."
That would be EXACTLY what I would say. You are going to HAVE to share custody of the kids, as you DO NOT have any valid reason NOT to share custody.
"So basically you are all saying I have close to zero percent chance of any type of alimony. He will pay child support, and we will split daycare."
"So, if he cancelled me off his health insurance and car insurance tomorrow, there would be nothing I could do or that the judge would deem as wrong?"
He usually can't remove you until the divorce is final, but YES, he, by the regulations of MOST insurance companies, CANNOT keep you on the insurance once you are divorced.
"My husband is super pissed off because he says not only am I keeping my daughter from him, but also from his 8 year old son. His son though does not pertain to any legal matter here for this, and while maybe I see why he is pissed, it really does not have anything to do with him and I doubt a judge would weigh heavily on that."
Perhaps not the SON< but your refusal to allow ANY unsupervised time WILL look bad for you. He has all the grounds he needs to fight for SOLE custody, and you are showing to not be cooperative co-parent.
"You all make it sound like if I did get an attorney he would not try and fight for what I think is right. You really believe an attorney would say I am delusional like some of you think I am?"
I do not think a lawyer would risk their REPUTATION with the court to go in and make the requests you are making. Keep in mind, the lawyer has OTHER clients, and they will be in front of the same judge AGAIN and they do not want to look like the kind of lawyer who represents nut cases.
Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...