delia06
recently joined
Reged: 02/17/12
Posts: 2
|
Re: modifying visitation to change school districts
02/23/12 10:23 AM
|
|
|
Thanks all. I live in Illinois. My ex is continuing to push very hard on this. I had a talk with oldest, very cautiously and in a different context because I don't want him to get wind of this yet and feel pressured. He has a friend who wants to go to a private boarding school, so I used that to feel out my son and asked him if he would consider leaving his friends here to go to another school like this boarding school. A few months ago he was horrified by this idea. But now he immediately got weird about it and said, "I should be going to the school that is best and not worry about my friends," then when I said, "But if you went to the boarding school would you be ok only being home and seeing your family on weekends?" He then got all teary-eyed and didn't answer. Finally he said, "Well, Dad has only been able to see me every other weekend so it would only be fair if it changed so that you only got to see me every other weekend." Clearly my ex has been talking to him about this, and is pouring on the guilt. I KNOW my son wants to live here, but I also know he gets very anxious and stressed over feeling guilty about my ex (which both my ex and his wife actively promote). I am trying to feel comforted by your opinions. However, my ex and his wife are perfectly willing to pressure the children, as well as lie to them to make us look bad or blame us for my ex not being a good parent(I have caught them doing this a couple of times.) But I refuse to badmouth my ex in return, or guilt trip the kids. So it worries me that my son would tell a judge he wants to go to this school because he's more afraid of the consequences of going against what his dad wants him to do, but knows we would love and support him either way. In addition, one of the family court judges in our county scares the heck out of me - he is corrupt and known for making unexpected crazy decisions. So my husband and I are now seriously considering escaping to the neighboring town (5 minutes down the road) to our financial detriment, just to be able to get into the boundaries of a particular high school there that happens to also have a very high ranking. We are going to look at a house on Friday. We just can't risk splitting up our family like that (we have 1 child of our own), or having one or both older kids spend 80% of their time either unsupervised or watched over by my ex-husband's wife (which given my ex's history, current work place, and travel schedule, would be the case). Sorry so long, thanks again for the insight!
|
|
1 registered and 1 anonymous users are browsing this forum.
Moderator: dsAdmin
|
Forum Permissions
You cannot start new topics
You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled
UBBCode is disabled
|
Rating:
Thread views: 3111
|
|
|
|
|
|
UBB.threads™ 6.5.1.1
|
Easily Connect With a Lawyer or Mediator
Have Divorce Professionals from Your Area Contact You!
|
|
|
|
|
The information contained on this page is not to be considered legal advice.
A local counsel or professional should always be consulted in regards to any legal matters.
"a passion for a better divorce℠" - established in 1996
© 1996 - 2013 Divorce Source, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Previous
Index
Next
Flat
Edit
Reply
Quote
