AllisonG38
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Re: I may have to give him the kids :(
02/24/12 08:42 AM
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Ok, I typed up a response yesterday and apparently it didn't go through, so I'm going to try again.
To the comment about finding a job, again, jobs in my area are VERY difficult to find at this time and what jobs are available your competing with 50 other people. This is why hubby ran back to mommy because after retiring from the military because he couldnt find a job around here. As far as going back to school, this is what my case manager suggested, whether its to finishing up getting certified for teaching or retrain for something else, you do what you have to do right now! And the state will pay for it. I had a job at the public school 8 yrs ago when we met, and I left that and sold my house to give him 2 children that he so desperately wanted and be a full time mother. I gave all of that up, and now being thrown into a horribly economy where jobs are scarce and suppose to support 3 kids on my own with no child support!
As far as the kids,I guess the correct thing I should have posted was "I'm giving him primary placement at this time." Although this is not what I had planned initially, after everything that has happened and circumstances it is in the best interest of the children. As a caring mother, I am acknowledging the fact that right now I cannot offer them stability, where as the father and his mother can. As my family and friends all say "You've done your best for them the last 16mths and now you need to do what you've got to do to get back on your feet." On top of that, I am physically and mentally wiped out from all of this, and have had them for 16mths by myself with no help. It is time for their father, as it is his responsibility to take care of them.
I do plan on going through an attorney tho and make sure we have joint custody and visitation.
Yes, the father, my husband has been in and out of their lives over the past 16 mths out of his anger towards me for ending the marriage, but he has come around in the last 6 mths and says he would like to take them.
I think he will do a great job and this will give me the chance to be able to establish a new life and to also take care of my 11 yr old as well. And who knows, maybe down the road things will change and the kids will come back. But, for now, this is the best decision and I am at peace with it.
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