Java, I am really not being as belligerent as you think I am being. I simply want the best for my children. I have come to terms with the fact that I am fighting a losing battle, and I have also come to terms with the fact that I am not going to get the outcome that I would like to see, unless I spend thousands and thousands of dollars going back to court. Even though there are guidelines in the paper that dictate behavior, it doesn't mean that she is going to follow them. As I have stated before, I don't care what she chooses to do on her own time when she doesn't have the kids. I only care that the children receive the best possible care when they are with her. Does it bother me that she exposes them to countless men without caring about whether or not it has an impact on the kids? Sure. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. But some thoughtful consideration of the children would be great.
I also understand that any input I offer, constructively speaking, is not welcome by her. I don't want to tell her how to live her life other than wishing her the best. I've moved on, and I hope she can do the same. I have no right to tell her how to live her life, no question. I just want her to at least take the kids into consideration when she makes decisions that can ultimately have an impact on the kids. I'm not married to her, so I have no right to tell her squat, I agree. But I just long for the day when we can have an open and honest line of communication about the kids, what they need, how they are coping, etc. I don't think that's "controlling", but rather I am just being a caring and loving parent.
My children are of the age where they can see what's going on, and I pray that they don't get hurt. I will be there for them, protect them when I can, and give them the most stable environment to grow up in.
If the kids are ever physically harmed, molested, or otherwise, THEN I will step in.....but I know that God is on our side, and will protect them when I can't be there. And I will be as supportive as I can for the children's sake, and provide them with whatever they need. And I will continue to pray for their mother, and hope beyond all hopes that she can at least see how bitterness and anger does nothing to help the kids. I'm sure that we will continue to butt heads from time to time, but I only have control over myself, and I will be the best loving and supportive father I can be. The rest is in God's hands. Please keep us in our prayers. Thank you. :)