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Re: WWYD?
      03/17/12 03:12 AM

[quote]SS will be graduating from military training in May. While I know it's a ways off, I'm wondering what you think. I told H he needs to go to support his son and that I would stay home with the dogs. It's in the middle of the week close to H's bday. We were talking about this with his D's a week ago, and they also want to go; it's out of state, and want to bring their kids. Keep in mind, they are 6, 2, 2, and will be close to 8 months old. Neither of them can "afford" it. H kept his mouth shut, knowing full well that they would want him to offer to help pay for them and their kids to go. He told me that he would offer to help with hotel as it wouldn't cost him anything, he could use his points. But they can "drive" with their mother if they really want to go. I don't believe that this is an event that kids would even care about that are that young. But, that's me. I believe he will stick to this, as he knows that they really need to stand on their own financially. Younger SD is still not divorced, looking for a place to live. Would you go as the step parent? Or would you keep this huge life event to the parents of the child in question? I'm not sure if BM is taking her H or not. As I said, it's still far away and I really don't know what to do. My heart says go, but my head says stay home, it's a parents moment. [/quote]


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I think it's nice for someone in the family to be there to acknowledge it. I don't think everyone NEEDS to be there. That depends on individual work commitments and finances.

Your dh's dd's seem to be low on work commitments and finances. Not good.

I think giving those girls money to go on vacation with their entire entourages, which is essentially what this would amount to, while there life finances are in such a shambles is enabling. Offering to pick up the hotel bill ONLY for those who can arrange their own transportation and other expenses or offering to pay for a celebration dinner/party for those who can make it would be nice of your husband.

If they want to bring young kids for a long car ride to support their brother....fine. I'd fly and find seperate seating at the event

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* WWYD? Char9 03/16/12 01:45 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Loretta   03/17/12 01:34 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? LexieBelle   03/17/12 02:09 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Loretta   03/17/12 02:33 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/19/12 09:03 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? javajunkiee   03/18/12 04:55 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/19/12 09:05 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? M5M5   03/19/12 01:06 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/19/12 04:01 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? annieo   03/17/12 08:38 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Debi   03/17/12 08:38 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? finz   03/17/12 03:12 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? annieo   03/17/12 12:21 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? M5M5   03/16/12 06:53 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Reilly   03/16/12 07:40 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? elliesmom   03/16/12 10:49 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? NikkiL   03/16/12 02:03 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? LexieBelle   03/16/12 02:16 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Debi   03/16/12 02:53 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/19/12 09:10 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? Buckeye   03/19/12 11:37 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/19/12 04:02 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? finz   03/20/12 12:15 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/20/12 10:08 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? finz   03/22/12 12:22 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? Tweeby   03/20/12 10:37 AM
. * * Re: WWYD? Char9   03/20/12 01:25 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? ssmom79   03/19/12 12:22 PM
. * * Re: WWYD? Debbie_L   03/19/12 11:45 AM

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