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doingmybest
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Would you move back?
      04/09/12 11:48 PM

Hi Everyone,

I posted before about a situation I'm having with the father of my child and would like the opinion of this forum.

The father is suing me for primary custody in his state, which is not the home state of the baby. He lives in California and we live in Ohio where the baby was born. The only reason I moved to Ohio was to be near my family and have a support system in place for both me and the baby.

My question is would you move back to the state where the father lives so that the father can have a relationship with the baby.

Backround information;

1. Father did not want the baby, wanted me to abort.
2. He stopped speaking to me after I refused to abort and we have not spoken in close to a year.
3. The baby is 4 months old and he has never contacted me once about the baby, not for a picture, not for any information, nothing.
4. He is suing me for primary custody, though he has not made any effort to see the baby (I heard he is suing for custody because he does not want to pay child support)

Would any one move back? If I stay in Ohio, I know that the baby will be loved and nutured every day. My parents are providing childcare, so I know my son will be in good hands when I have to go to work.

If I move back to California, I might be going into a huge custody battle where my son might have to spend a good part of his week with someone who doesn't even care to ask about his health or wellbeing. My ex was extremely controling and I'm afraid the next 18 years will be nothing but fighting on his part with no cooperation or coparenting.

Should I take the chance that my ex can be a good father especially since the baby is so young and they need to be loved and nurtured, not used as a pawn.

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* Would you move back? doingmybest 04/09/12 11:48 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? MinnesotaMom   04/10/12 05:15 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? doingmybest   04/10/12 07:42 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? MinnesotaMom   04/11/12 04:06 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? Debi   04/12/12 01:07 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? MinnesotaMom   04/12/12 09:17 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? doingmybest   04/13/12 01:10 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? doingmybest   04/11/12 04:51 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? akrkck   04/11/12 11:54 AM
. * * Re: Would you move back? gr8Dad   04/11/12 03:25 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? elliesmom   04/11/12 04:05 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? Anonmouse   05/05/12 11:48 PM
. * * Re: Would you move back? Buckeye   04/10/12 06:18 AM
. * * Re: Would you move back? Maury   04/10/12 07:44 AM
. * * Re: Would you move back? doingmybest   04/10/12 10:08 AM
. * * Re: Would you move back? elliesmom   04/10/12 01:54 PM

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