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elliesmom
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Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish

05/21/12 10:27 AM

I would not agree to take them to ANY activities in their hometown unless you have the entire summer.

I would enroll them in some fun stuff where you live and simply say that they don't have time to participate in anything else during the time they are there. You let her start this game and it will NEVER END.

No way in HELL should you have sent this kid over to tell his mom he didn't want to play. The truth is - you don't know what he really wants. Maybe he doesn't want to play. Maybe he doesn't care one way or another (most likely), but does know what a FIGHT this has been and wants to please the one he's with. You basically forced him to either admit he was lying to you or go confront his mom, who he lives with most of the time. You need to back out of the BS. "Mmm. That's nice, but whether you play BBall or not is mom's call. You'll have to talk to her about it. In the mean time - you are signed up to play tonight and need to live up to your commitment."

EVEN if he really does hate baseball and she is forcing him to play - your DH can't stop her. He is a LD NCP. As terrible as it may sound - the kids need to adjust to the fact that Dad has no power in their day-to-day lives with her any more. He needs to focus on securing the ability to determine what goes on during his time. No way would I give up an already shortened weekend for baseball if I was traveling. Sorry Baseball < Dad. Fortunately she has demonstrated that it will be necessary to WRITE in the decree a weekend swap for Mday and Fday, because she is determined to be difficult. And given her stance on activities - they need to be up to your discretion as well.

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Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/17/12 10:21 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 04:33 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:07 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 05:11 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:15 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 05:18 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:22 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 05:25 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Cassie23	05/22/12 03:52 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:37 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 05:49 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 06:00 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:04 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	ssmom79	05/17/12 10:46 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/17/12 10:59 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/19/12 10:43 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/20/12 08:39 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Goodmom	05/20/12 07:53 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 07:50 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 10:27 AM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	M5M5	05/21/12 05:51 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Goodmom	05/21/12 05:41 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 07:39 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:44 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Goodmom	05/21/12 05:49 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 02:03 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 02:35 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 03:02 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 03:25 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 03:36 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 03:50 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 03:53 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	elliesmom	05/21/12 04:05 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 04:09 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	c_jane	05/21/12 02:30 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Goodmom	05/21/12 05:43 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 05:49 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 02:40 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 02:53 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 03:07 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/21/12 01:03 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	SRS	05/20/12 04:47 PM
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish	Nicole	05/21/12 07:48 AM

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