Nicole
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Court, GAL, and DCS
07/02/12 08:54 AM
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DH had court on Friday for the Suspension of Summer visitation. He headed down before to pick up SS's and he also had meeting with the GAL and his lawyer. At the meeting with the GAL, the GAL read text messages straight from DH's phone between BM and him. After he was done reading just the last month of texts he told DH about a case he recently had with a father that was identical to DH's and he told DH that he gave the father the choice on if he wanted school year or summer. DH didn't really know what to think of him telling DH that until he talked to his lawyer and his lawyer said he got the feeling that the GAL was headed in that direction after talking to him previously that week. DH doesn't know how to feel about this.
The motion for suspension was dismissed, obviously. BM's lawyer tried to settle and they spend over two hours going back and forth on details. In the end they didn't get everything worked out so they didn't finalize anything but the lawyer's are trying to figure a few more details out to see if they can settle it. The GAL and judge said that it was going to be a 9/3 split. So one person will get school the other will get summer.
In my last post I said the states were not opening a case. We thought that since DH had called both states and talked to social workers in both about the situation and both said they didn't feel a case would be opened. Well, DH received a call on Friday from the counselor we set up down here and he said that he should be getting a call from DCS because he had to report it. So, soon after DH received the call and talked to the social worker, she said that she would have to meet with the kids and me but that from what she has heard we have been proactive on taking steps to help the kids and handle the situation. Our state has a level system on how cases are labeled and we are a level 3 which is the lowest level. So tomorrow the kids and I are going to talk to the social worker. My sister seemed to think that if a case did get opened down here that they would send it to BM's state as well since they live there too. I guess we will find out.
I am bothered by people thinking I would make this up. The day I posted first about this whole situation was the day after it happened. I was shocked, worried, stressed, sad, confused, a lot of different emotions. I didn't come back for almost a week because we were dealing with it as a family and well, honestly my sister helped me a lot with what to do. I have gone through the emotions for the past month about all of this and yes I am in a much better place with handling it. Like I stated before we do not have the fear that SS would do this again (not that we are not being cautious though) we are more concerned on why he did it. Now that we have an actual summer plan on when we will have SS's we can set up more counseling and hopefully find out why this happened. GAL suggested BM set up a counselor as well, so hopefully since he did that she will.
I can't remember a lot of what ppl wrote in my last post I know there was some questions on me being truthful or over dramatic, etc. I can't prove anything to anyone here. You can choose to believe or not. If you don't then I am sorry that I have done anything to make you feel like I lied about anything. I have been vague on some details but that doesn't mean I lied. I have been careful what to post here and I think someone mentioned that they felt I didn't need support since I have enough ppl in my life to help me. Yes, luckily I do have a lot of ppl in my life that have helped me a lot the past month. My sister has been amazing and she has been so awesome to talk to me almost everyday when I just call to get out feelings or if I need to ask questions. I am lucky and I honestly don't need advice regarding what we need to do with the situation with SS, we feel comfortable with the direction we are headed in healing from that. I have several posters on here that have honestly reached out to me with concern and support and I only come back for them.
It does not bother me though that ppl disagree with what I say or what we are doing, they are not living our lives and they do not know what is best for our family. I do not have everything figured out but we are learning as we go. I feel very lucky that I have am amazing support system in real life that I have been able to lean on.
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Court, GAL, and DCS
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Nicole
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07/02/12 08:54 AM
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07/06/12 08:45 AM
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07/02/12 02:35 PM
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07/06/12 08:51 AM
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Nicole
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07/05/12 07:54 AM
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Reilly
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07/02/12 09:21 AM
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07/02/12 12:09 PM
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