I was hoping I could get a little advice. I live in NJ. Me and my husband have been having issues for years and I'm tired of dealing with it. Two years ago, there was an issue about him cheating(was never proved either way) I thought we were better, but, it never was I guess. We have 2 children. I have taken care of both of them 99% of the time. I rarely get any help from him. I took 6 months off with my first and 9 months off with my second. I have stayed at my job just because of the benefits and the flexibility it has given me with having children. He owns his own business and supports the family. He expects me to have a full course meal on the table when he gets home(even though he comes home a different time every day) He wants the house spic and span(we've got two "babies" in the house) I just feel everything he wants is just too extreme, and he doesn't give me any help. We both work FT. He comes home and watches TV. I watch the kids. He occasionally helps, but I hear about it.
Anyways, he threw out divorce to me last week. I need to know my options. The house-bought in my name and my dads 3 weeks before the wedding. He says I screwed myself because I could never afford the house and kids. I would like to stay in the house for the kids, but, I would be flexible in getting a condo or something. We would probably make $200K on the sale of the house. What is he obligated to? What about the kids? He drinks every night. My brother works for him and he stops and gets a six pack every night. He's not drunk by far, but I still don't think it's right for him to watch them drinking. He thinks it's funny when the kids would grab for the beer or try and take a sip.(they never drink it, but it's the action) We always said we wouldn't keep the kids from each other. He's got a temper, and I don't think he can handle both kids. If he's already miserable, he definitely can't even handle one. Alright, I feel like I'm going on tangents. i'm sorry. I'm just really confused about everything and have no idea where to begin. Supposedly, his biggest problem is that he feels I don't do anything around the house. I do, it's just not at the times that he expects it. Everything has to be done when he wants and how he wants it. He owns his own business and he acts as if I'm his employee and not his wife. Over the weekend, he said he didn't want to lose me. He said I'm never going to change and he'll have to accept that(note the tone that was in his voice) He said that maybe one day I'll want to do these things for him.
I just need any advice that anyone could give me on ss, cs, keeping the house, what is owed to him....etc. Anything and everything would be helpful. Ask questions if I've forgotten anything.....I'm open to all the help I can get right now. Thank you so much!
Oh, I have gone back to school FT, while working FT and watching the children. I'm depending on family, other than my husband, to watch the kids when I have to take a test or something. I can't depend on my husband. I asked for an hour out of his time to watch them and he just walked out of the house to talk on the phone. It was business, but the world wouldn't have fallen apart if he put the call on hold for 15 minutes. I am starting a new job tomorrow that is less money, but in the field that I am going to school for.
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