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aussie928
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Re: Update from When To Call It Quits

01/25/05 11:04 AM

G'day mate...I like your upfront style mate. The fact that you have really done some soul searching about the paying attention to one wee one and just didnt come back with excuse after excuse speaks tons about your character. Now that I know more of the story I'm not sure you can get past 7 or 8 times and not said to hurt you mate but not sure someone that can do this this many times can stop. I really hope you dont take this next comment wrong but I have learned sometimes with people that while we see giving another chance after chance as a good thing they often see it as a sign of weakness. As in he is always making threats he will leave and he never does so I can keep on with this behaviour. I have a good friend thats a shrink and he told me something very interesting and its part of why I finally decided to divorce.

Relationships are a series of patterns. Some good..some not so good. Person A does X..person B reacts to it a certain way...and that pattern continues. Person A is not going to change their pattern. The only way this will change is if you change your reaction and hence the pattern is broken.

I know the thought of leaving your wee ones and perhaps not being a fulltime father has to hurt and we always want to think that the worst thing we can do for a wee one is divorce. I have learned that is not the case. In one of your last post you said that you no longer love her in that way. Perhaps its time to leave mate...you deserve better then this and quite frankly so do your wee ones. Keep us posted and good luck to you mate.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/22/05 10:47 PM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	aussie928	01/23/05 09:25 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/25/05 09:37 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	aussie928	01/25/05 11:04 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/26/05 12:21 PM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/27/05 08:56 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	daphyne	01/27/05 08:37 PM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/28/05 07:40 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	Onyx	01/23/05 05:54 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/25/05 09:25 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	sparky	01/25/05 09:36 AM
Re: Update from When To Call It Quits	KDogg	01/28/05 07:45 AM

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