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rockyroad
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Just starting the process

01/25/05 03:31 PM

I am just starting into the divorce process. I won’t bore you with the details, but we recently concluded that this is the best thing for us to do for our children’s sake and our own.

At this time, I am a bit overwhelmed as to how to start and what to expect. We are going at this in a cooperative manner, so we want to split everything 50/50 including custody. We have two children 12 and 16. We want to avoid lawyers but we do have significant assets between home equity and 401Ks. We could each walk away with in excess of $600K.

My concern is about spousal support. We are in California. We have been married 20 years. She did not work after our first child was born. However, she is capable of earning a very comfortable salary since she has been a very successful sales person. She has been working very part time for the past two years as something to do. She has enjoyed not having to work for the past years and isn’t very interested in working to support herself. She is making the argument that she needs to be around in the afternoons for the kids. She really only does the carpool in the afternoon. She isn’t dedicated to helping with homework and they don’t have any after school activities.

Anyway, in trying to develop a fair settlement, I would think it reasonable to provide support for some period while she gets a full time job but I am afraid she is thinking that I will do this in perpetuity and at a very high rate. By the way, I have offered to take custody of the kids but she feels guilty accepting that.

I would appreciate some advice on how to deal with this constructively. What is a reasonable approach and what could I expect if this does end up in court?

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Just starting the process	rockyroad	01/25/05 03:31 PM
Re: Just starting the process	Crusader	02/07/05 11:58 PM
You're gonna pay spousal support	Melody	01/26/05 12:51 AM
Re: You're gonna pay spousal support	rockyroad	01/28/05 02:01 PM
Re: Sharing the marital home	Diane67	01/30/05 11:15 AM
Hey if you could make those ground rules stick	Melody	01/30/05 08:05 PM
Re: Hey if you could make those ground rules stick	Diane67	02/01/05 03:00 PM
In California, child support is based on income	Melody	01/30/05 12:41 AM
Re: In California, child support is based on income	aussie928	01/30/05 01:38 AM
God yes!!!	Melody	01/30/05 02:00 AM
Re: God yes!!!	rockyroad	01/31/05 02:37 PM
Easy solution there....	Melody	02/01/05 12:56 AM
Re: God yes!!!	aussie928	01/30/05 08:48 AM
Re: God yes!!!	Diane67	01/30/05 11:08 AM
Re: You're gonna pay spousal support	aussie928	01/28/05 03:50 PM
Re: Just starting the process	overtherainbow	01/25/05 08:16 PM

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