Melody
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/04
Posts: 10102
Loc: California
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God yes!!!
01/30/05 02:00 AM
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A frickin' nightmare. What happens when one parent arrives to take over their week only to find a kitchen full of dishes, dirty wet towels on the bathroom floor, nasty curlies in the shower, and the toilet seat up and grimy!?!?!?! And THAT's the more pleasant stuff!!! It's just weird! So they take turns in the master bedroom? ICK!!! Just ICK!!!!
I knew of one family who bought houses next door to each other. They had only one child and he would just go back and forth as he pleased on a daily basis. They seemed to get along fairly well on the surface. We didn't know them all that well. My ex coached the boy in junior high basketball...so not a real gauge of how well it worked.
I am not even fond of the alternating weeks thing. Unless the parents are on the same wave length on most issues...such as chores, bedtimes, homework, appropriate TV/movie viewing, internet access, etc...there is going to be a lot of problems for the child moving between two such diametrically opposed households. I know there is the argument that kids have to learn to adapt to different rules in different locations and that is true....but there are cases where it just doesn't seem to work. My kids HATED the back and forth. We had a 50/50 but it wasn't alternate weeks. We had EOW from Friday pm to Monday am at school, plus Tues/Thurs overnights. So in a 14 day period, we each had 7 days. There was constantly something being left behind...homework, soccer shoes, a book or toy...not to mention clothing that Dad wouldn't oversee being packed up and returned. This posed problems since Dad wasn't providing any clothing and I had to provide it all. When he didn't follow through on returning clothing, I was caught short handed at my house. Kids were miserable over living conditions at Dads house, stepmom's cooking and mealtime rules, evil stepsisters, lack of respect from stepmom and stepsisters...yada, yada. I prefer the stability of a permanent residence with visitation to the other parent. Perhaps that is because it's what I have, so I like it. If I were the visiting parent, I"m sure I wouldn't be as happy. Either way, my kids have done much better in school, relationships, etc since the 50/50 was abandoned.
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