I have just received a phone call from my youngest's tball coach- he called me. It's the 3rd time I've talked to him, but we've never met.
The first time was when I finally got his number from the BUMD. I called to ask why he had contacted him about Zs schedule and not me, as the BUMD told me he'd put my info down as CP. Coach said no, he put down his info, his phone with my address- said he was CP. Coach laughed when I said I thought he'd do that, that he was divorced and remarried himself, and that he understood a lot of things divorcing parents due since he's been coaching. He sounded nice, and talked for a minute about his divorce, custody, and 2wife.
I called him yesterday to ask when Zs schedule was going to be made. He said he was sorry I hadn't come to Zs practice, but he knew how difficult things are at the beginning of a divorce. Said he'd try to have a schedule ready by the next practice. Then he made some kind of comment about the BUMDs looks.... that he was surprised Z was so young because he looked so weather-beaten and had grey in his hair and beard. That made me laugh, and I said we're both the same age, but people have told me that lately. Then he said he thought the BUMD must have robbed the cradle to have such young kids when he looks so old...and that I sounded so young and energetic (I've had years worth of jobs that revolved around phones, so I must have had my 'phone voice' on), and then said he likes older women, and his wife is older. ??? And then offered that if I ever needed to talk, or needed advice about the divorce that I could call him or maybe go out for coffee. He said his wife is a nurse and they have opposite hours, so she knows he like to talk (or something like that.) I thought ??
So, he calls today and says he has the schedule all worked out, and if I'd like, he could bring it over to me. ??? Do coaches really do that? I told him it was no problem to pick it up at the next practice, but now I'm kind of thinking something's off. The BUMD will be at the practice, too, which he knows. Is my radar tweaking, or am I picking up on some future problem?
I've been with the BUMD for quite a while, and haven't had to deal with dating or friendships of the opposite sex for a long time.