sadie46
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ss, hiding income/theft and abuse? dumb here
04/21/06 05:51 PM
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Hi all,
Long story short, hubby of 24 years left 2 years ago to take a long distance job because of his mishandling of public funds that created the demise of our marriage. (we were schedule c and employee with that job, income was 60/our/40 theirs $70K with Great benefits..hid and dissipated our assets over $100K. Loss of $80K job that now he says $30K. Our bills were $4K now 6K due to move..so the numbers don't add. I went back to work with private, when previous to that, I worked for our business no salary. call it joint. When we got married I gave him support to attain his $$$, a license. Raised wonderful kids(a students), kept a beautiful home, cook, cleaned etc...and I was ms frugal. Why pay retail, when you can get it at 50%..but it takes time. Was the one to handle all major investments, not day to day but was instrumental in attaining our current net worth due to my time spent with preservation of the earnings. pay yourself first is what I believe. Credit score of the highest until he walked. Now he left, started a new company, credit card debt from hell all the while I remain in home to see child graduate with her honors and I went back to work under stress from hell. What was he doing?...my gut said he has walked didn't wantedd to blieve though (call me blonde)and doesn't care about you anymore. Yep, my gut was right. The job/business loss was a crucial blow to his ego, easier to start all over than to say I made a grave error. Well, now...1/4 assets gone..my work those years as well as him, but what I see is a tradegy is he left our family area/home which I hated from day one. tiny town vs DFW and never cared about my thoughts. Lived here 18 years to build his career and attain assets..then lose and bailed. He wants 50/50 and no alimony. He has never paid child support..per se..just out of hidden income/debts.. and now I guess I will assume. Me a $15K employee. He $75-85. The home needed to sell, kids gone, left in BFE etc.. did all the marketing no realtor and got good money, but still in my mind I would still be his wife, move to his new job, kids are goingto college where he is at, and counseling to save the marriage will be necessary. The day I signed the papers...he filed. House was half pd for. $220K in small town but $500K in city..new in 2000. I have to be out of my home now in one week, with NO help and we lost about $25K on it..which another hickey. I want justice I guess...He says no alimony and what I get 50/50 will have sustain you. ..make the most of it. I say..you get 50% never have to touch invest, will grow your new job/business and in 10 years you are worth 1.5K million easy on 8% return. I will need $18K a year more just to live. I just don't understand the equation. We are 50/47. been together half our lives. I would like to settle on $1500 month alimony for 10 years. plus half. Is that fair? I can't fight any longer. I have done all I can to preserve the marriage and our assets. The lawyers will eat us alive, due his lies that I have to prove. Any advise. BTW I have no problem working or scaling back..just want to preserve my quote inheritance, that I worked hard for too.
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