That is the question.
You see, my brother has a daughter, him and his x broke up about 3 months ago due to the partial fact that they didn't get along anymore, but also because my brother couldn't take what she was doing to his daughter anymore. He was hoping that he could do things right and get his daughter, well, it went drastically wrong. You see, he was also abused mentally by his x, believe me, they all lived here for 4 months before she left.
As for the daughter, she is 7. Her mother would not work, even though my brother couldn't work because of a badly broken foot and my fiancee were supporting all of them and housing them. Anyway, she would sleep until 11-1:30 every morning, which in itself is no biggy. But my niece would get up at 7-8, and she was told that she could not come out of her room until her mother got up(her mother told her this). She would sneak to the bathroom, but you would never know she was awake because she was so afraid to make a sound. She hides candy and food in her room so that when she is hungry in the morning she can have something to eat and not bother her mother. Needless to say, this is not healthy. The child can't do anything without asking her mother permission, even go to the bathroom. She is so afraid of talking or asking for anything! When she moved here she had what I called "Doe eyes", her eyes were so round! My brother tried his best to help out, but the mother shut him out, didn't want him to have anything to do with the daughter. When asking to see a paper she got from school because she got a really good mark, she threw it on the floor for him to pick up. One time he was trying to help his daughter with a homework problem, but she was there, and she told him to go and do something, go outside, she was helping her. She kept him out of any REAL contact with his daughter. Was there love there? NONE My brother tried to keep the relationship going because of his daughter, but with the stress between them, the hate from her, he felt it best that they parted. When he said he wanted her to stay because he was truly afraid of what she would do to his daughter (Did I mention she is a manic depressive and wont take meds?), she decided to have her sister come over with her boyfriend(baseball bat and knife included), and while his daughter was sleeping, grabbed her out of her room and into a car. We called the police because it became a big fight, she didn't have to do it that way, he couldn't even say goodbye? The police came and gave temp. custody to my brother. Then, she took her daughter from school one day, I was there with my brother when he waited for the school bus, and his daughter didn't come off. He died alot that day. She then put abuse charges on him, and they stuck!!! One of the reasons for that ruling is because she was "kicked out of the household"(It was his family home, and she was already told by her mother to come live with her and let him go to hell),
and didn't have custody of her child at the time. Shoot! That was the polices decision! That, and even though that happened, he tried to make arraingements to have them meet in a public place so that she could see her.
He is a good guy, not perfect, but he really cares about his daughter and we are all scared for her. Through the visitation center, the mother has already made it so that they are almost thrown out (the visitation center feels sorry for my brother and is trying to work through it), and a no contact order is given.
Ok, long story, but we are at our wits end over here! The courts and no-one else will listen to my brother because he is a male! There is no support for abused men here, and he has talked a few times about wanting to end it all, what is the point? He can't even protect his little girl.
Any ideas? Anybody know anything that could help? I am an abuse survivor, and it disturbs me that the men being abused have no voice at all.
Thank you for reading this, sorry it was so long, would be longer if I told everything though!
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