jamesjr
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Still trying to figure it all out!
06/15/06 09:31 AM
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Well its been about 3 months since my wife left me for another man.she stays at a friends house during the week and spends her weekends with the new man as he lives 3 hours away.whats tough is during the week we email or text almost everyday which i know is bad.we even meet for dinner maybe once a week.it always is a weird feeling to see her but we enjoy each others company.she says she misses me and the things we had,but not enough to come back.she still pays for half the mortgage and bills even though she is not in the house.she says she feels guilty,thats why she continues to pay.we still havent filed for divorce.i know it is coming but dread the day.she told her therapist that we both have some attachment issues,thats why she just isnt ready to pull the trigger on anything.i am such a wreck.part of me knows i shouldnt have contact with her for what she put me thru with this other guy.part of me wants to get everything over with,file,sell house and move on.i am so on the fence about things.she keeps telling me that this other guy isnt that big a deal and i am making more out of it then it needs to be.mixed signals like that are what keep me hanging on.i could never trust her again if she ever came back.she asked if i could forgive her and i said yes,someday.but i will never forget.i really think if i tried to not make contact with her she would probably not call me.maybe a month or 2 down the road.then i feel like i didnt show interest so she moves on.this is my stupid thinking.she is so tough to read.when i tell her this she says that she would miss me and would call.she also says it would take awhile because she hasnt really missed me with how we talk and see each other so much.so i get up everyday and try to make it a better day than last.some day or days are better.time is your friend on this subject.it does get easier but i do have the relapses also.thanks all for listening and caring.
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