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Why men are the comforters and women suck...
06/10/05 10:09 PM
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Why Woman are the Comfort Givers
06-Jun-2005
Newswise -
Women are the comforters in our culture and they are not forgiving of other women who lack comforting skills. They're much more tolerant of men who lack the skills to be comforters. Communications specialist Brant Burleson says, "We think these women are paying [more] attention to the gender of the person giving the message [than to] the content or effectiveness of the message." Now that men are taking jobs that involve comforting others, in areas like nursing and teaching young children, we need to shed the old-fashioned perception that men have less empathy than women.
Burleson, along with colleague Amanda Holmstrom, conducted two experiments. In the first one, 137 people answered questions about stories they read regarding comforting messages given by either female and male helpers. In the second study, 44 men and 43 women discussed an upsetting event with either a female or male comforter, who intentionally used ineffective comforting messages.
An example of a good comforting message: When a person confides in you that he or she has broken up with a lover, you should say something like, "Don't worry, you'll meet someone else." A BAD comforting message is something like: "Don't worry, you're better off without him (or her)."
Amanda Holmstrom says, "These [experiments] show that it is worse for women than men to be inept when providing emotional support, especially to other women." In other words, we EXPECT men to be less capable of giving comfort to others, so we don't hold them to the same high standards.
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