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work friends sending pictures
03/10/07 02:22 PM
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Hello! I need to know your opinion. About 6 months ago I decided to snoop in his cell phone. The first picture i saw was a female friend that works w/ him. The picture was saved as her caller id picture. It set me off because it was a picture of another female and for my number it was picture of my motorcycle. As i looked through his pictures- i saw a picture of her (fully dressed) sitting in a bathroom. It ate me up for weeks. I totally was depressed and had anxiety attacks. We finally discussed it. He said they were just friends and there was nothing else. i continued to check here and there. I finally stopped looking and was content until about a two weeks ago. Something told me to look. I did and sure enough I found another picture her with a hat on. These pictures are not X-rated or anything- but you can tell she was trying to look cute. Know I'm starting to wonder if she is chasing him or feeding his ego. Anyway, I did some further checking and noticed that he sent the picture to his email (and then statch it in a un common place)removed it from the inbox. I'm thinking why is he hiding it. I dwelled on it for about a week. I refused to get depressed as i did before. About a week ago i end up calling her. I know- I broke rule # 1. I simply confronted her about it in a woman to woman manor. I did not get histile at all. I just wanted to know why she was sending my husband pictures of her. She figured out who I was and that was ok. She explained the reason for the last picture and said she was also married and that there wasn't anything going on. For some reason i was finally content. I asked her how would she feel if I or another woman sent her husband pictures of them. She said she would be upset and she understood how I felt. I also asked her if she sent the pictures to her husband as well. No she did not. I told her that we was cool and not too worry. I also told her that I would appreciate it if the conversation stayed between us. After the call I felt REALLY bad and almosted wanted to send her and her husband a giftcard to a resturaunt. I'm glad i didn't. All week I felt he knew i had called her. He was very stand offish and had a small attitude. Today it came out. He was waiting all week to say something to me. Story has it is that her sister said something to him about it. I guess her sister was scared. and he asked A.H. about it. She said yes and distorted the entire conversation. She said I checked her and threatened to send the pictures to her husband. Honestly, it was a calm conversation because i prepared myself for whatever answer and I did not want to be a battle on the phone and i wasn't planning on beating her up. What I said at the beginning of the call was: Do you have a minute? I wanted to know why she was sending pictures of herself to my husband? She didn't know who I was at that time. She was trying to figure out what pictures. I asked her if she wanted me to send them to her. She asked if the pictures were by cell phone, email or what. That is when I told her i would send them to her. After she said my name is when i asked her if she sent the pictures to her husband and how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot. She explained that she sent the picture to several people that work with them. She also told me how pretty and confident she thought i was and that she really liked me. How he is always telling them that i'm confident and will talk infront of people and that I understand everything. Anyway as he told me what she said- turning the real convo into something it was not- he said that it was hard to believe that I didn't threaten her or was really threatening. I told him I wasn't- which is true. I also said: So you beleive her over me? He said no, but it was hard to beleive. He also said that I disrespected him by snooping and calling her. I'm also blamed for pulling her marriage into it over nothing. From what I'm told- they are having issues with her husband thinking she is sleeping around. That is not my problem. An after thought-(because the convo is over)if she knew how her husband was thinking- why would she send pictures to any other man wether a co-worker or not? I was over it until he asked me about it today. I guess i still am to a point. I need your honest opinion. I understand that all replies are just personal opionions. Should I tell him about my after thoughts or just drop it?
Thnaks.
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