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focusedon2
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Concerned about what children see as normal

05/02/07 09:24 PM

My Mom is always asking me what my ex thinks he is teaching my children by his behavior.

My ex himself used to always say that he wanted the girls to think it's "normal" for a man to buy you flowers on Valentine's Day and to open your door for you and, basically, to treat you right. So he would do these things for my daughters because he wanted to set the example of "what is right".

So then he cheats on his wife, has another child while still married, leaves home and basically spends his time between 2 families.

So I wonder what my girls are going to look for in a husband. I wonder if they will look for a husband. I wonder if they will see anything wrong in being the OW or in being adulterous. Why should they?

I had just assumed that my children would see a "loving, committed relationship" as normal but that seems to be out of the question now.

Do you worry about what your children will see as "normal" when they are adults? Do you worry that a negative pattern has been established for your family that will most likely follow your family from one generation to the next? Do you even see this as a negative pattern or this just a part of our changing times?

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Concerned about what children see as normal	focusedon2	05/02/07 09:24 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 07:40 AM
How do they know about the cheating...	gr8Dad	05/04/07 06:13 AM
Re: How do they know about the cheating...	focusedon2	05/04/07 06:22 AM
Re: How do they know about the cheating...	Redlegg	05/04/07 06:48 AM
Re: How do they know about the cheating...	Redlegg	05/04/07 04:20 PM
And if one of your children...	gr8Dad	05/04/07 06:59 AM
Re: And if one of your children...	rocketgirl	05/04/07 07:32 AM
Re: And if one of your children...	TGSM	05/04/07 08:13 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	focusedon2	05/03/07 06:28 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/04/07 12:03 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	hippie1981	05/03/07 05:54 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Avaya	05/04/07 08:50 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	preemiemom	05/03/07 09:35 PM
Tolerance and Acceptance	KiwiGirl	05/03/07 10:33 PM
Re: Tolerance and Acceptance	rocketgirl	05/04/07 06:12 AM
Re: Tolerance and Acceptance	TGSM	05/03/07 10:49 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	rocketgirl	05/03/07 06:14 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	hippie1981	05/03/07 09:22 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	elliesmom	05/04/07 12:09 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/04/07 01:57 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	rocketgirl	05/04/07 03:48 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	rocketgirl	05/04/07 12:13 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/04/07 11:34 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	TGSM	05/03/07 09:27 PM
Actually, yes it does...	gr8Dad	05/04/07 06:20 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Avaya	05/03/07 08:54 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Witch23	05/03/07 09:14 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/03/07 01:04 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Avaya	05/03/07 01:49 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/03/07 03:00 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Avaya	05/03/07 03:02 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/03/07 03:16 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Avaya	05/03/07 03:24 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/03/07 05:56 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Witch23	05/03/07 09:33 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	leegirl	05/03/07 09:22 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	spinnerdegrassi	05/03/07 09:33 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	elliesmom	05/03/07 11:30 AM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	KiwiGirl	05/02/07 10:14 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	JennyLynn	05/02/07 10:17 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	preemiemom	05/02/07 09:52 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	jsp	05/02/07 10:19 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	JennyLynn	05/02/07 10:22 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	Gecko	05/02/07 09:38 PM
Re: Concerned about what children see as normal	JennyLynn	05/02/07 09:40 PM

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