I apologize for not being around much, but I would guess I haven't really been missed.......
I'm trying to read to catch up a bit, but not doing too well with it.
One thing I wanted to post about.
For those of you who know my situation, things have changed a bit. My kids SM and myself have finally come to a calm place. We ended up having it out big time a couple months ago, now we have reached sort of a nice place. She discovered I'm not such an evil woman, and that there are two sides to every story.
So, over Father's Day weekend the X tells my daughter that she cannot use her pool membership while with me, that he would remove her name from the "family list" if she did. We are talking a two dollar charge when she goes with me.....pool membership is 65 dollars. He told her I didn't pay for half therefore she couldn't use it with me.
As much B S as he pulls all the time, I have no clue why this just got all over me. I went off on him in a big way. It really got me that he would tell her he would "remove her from the family list" if she used her membership(2$ charge) I guess. What really go me P O'd was the fact that he never even asked me if I would pay for half. If he would of asked me I honestly would of paid for half, but I would have had them add my name to the family too. Heck I would of been paying for more on his side than mine. Thing is I wouldn't have cared. He has never helped with one thing extra, not her dance, his sports, his car, insurance, nothing......... One thing he finally does for his kids, and they can't use it?
Anyway.......after I went off on him in a big way, he called his daughter about a week later telling her she could gladly use the pool membership while with me. Perhaps it was because I told him I was not going to return any of July's CS as I intended to do to help him while he has them. I told him I would use that money to pay for her to go to the pool since she couldn't use her membership. I know I was being a sarcastic B, but well, it just got all over me.
I have been working two jobs, now teaching summer school to just try to keep them in their extra's and a roof over their heads. I'm luckier than most around here, but I've worked hard too to provide for them.
There's my vent about that. My guess is the wife found out and ripped him a new one. She was defending him before saying he "never" put the kids in the middle of things. Maybe that is another reason why it got to me so badly.
Their relationship has not been good for a couple of years now. She's left a couple of times and I fear she's had enough. My X MIL and X FIL invited myself and the kids over and we visited for quite sometime. They too had never been very nice, but they hugged me, cried, and feel terrible about what happened with thier son. They wanted me to know they see things differently now. That was nice.
On Father's day the X cooked for his dad, and his wife left at 6 am and didn't come back, so the kids said. My daugher said she heard them fighting and it woke her up. She went into her dad's room after SM left and he was apparently crying. They feel really bad for their dad. They asked me if they could use their own money to get him a Father's Day gift, and so they did the next day and took it to him......
I'm not sure how I feel. He has the kids sympathy, but I've lived with that man, so if it's falling apart, I know it takes two to fail.
I'm not going to be involved, but in a way now, I kinda feel sorry for the SM. She has no job, no bank account, no way out, no place to go. Could of been me, I was luckier than most.
This got long, sorry......Back to 8th grade Algebra, it's our last day of summer school.