my mom has a PO against my dad. they've been married 33 years and he's been abusive 25 (my whole life). My whole family turned their backs on my dad, i let him stay with me, with one rule-no drinking (alcoholic). He got drunk last night, i took him to detox (he doesn't really speak english, so he doesn't know he can leave) this morning he was supposed to go to court, judge was going to decide if he'll extend PO, i don't even know if he went. He has no job, no money, nowhere to stay(he has his car). I hate myself for feeling bad for him, but i also get mad, bc i went through so many arguments with my husband over my dad, just so he can come home drunk, like it doesn't even matter.
I don't know where he's going to go, what he's going to eat, i don't think he knows where the homeless shelter is. I never thought i would see my father like this and it hurts. On top of that some of my familly members got mad at me for taking my dad in, but i never wanted to see him on the streets, obviously he didn't care. I just recently had serious brain surgery, so i'm not supposed stress out, ironic.... Why do i feel like this affects me more than anybody else in my family? Don't get me wrong, i also feel so sorry for my mother. Bless her heart. I love them both so much and i don't know the right thing to do. To my knowledge, she doesn't want divorce, she wants time to think, separate. I feel like it would be better for them to divorce, bc at least my dad would get half, or however it goes, but maybe then he could afford a place to stay. My mom has a lot of family here, so i knwo she's going to be okay. I'm tired of crying and stressing out. Should i just stay out of it? Any advice will help..