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Desperately Seeking Help
10/29/08 12:13 PM
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Hi-
I'm new here and was wondering if there was anyone who may shed some light on my very contentious divorce situation- support being the problem- so I may regain my sanity. If so, I'd be very grateful.
The problem revolves around the agreement that my stbx husband has presented and "WILL NOT NEGOTIATE ANY FURTHER!"
He left (affair- but it doesn't matter- MA is no-fault)less than two months after we bought a new house a new house to be closer to his job. He makes $150,000, possibly more now. I never handled the finances, and found out that he used our credit cards for everything and apparently wasn't paying them off monthly as I assumed he was. As a result, there is about $80,000 in credit card debt, and $22,000 for my student loans, which were accrued soley during our marriage. It's absolutely horrifying.
He wants to pay the minimum support guideline for the $100,000 child support cap, even though he makes much more, and also pay alimony (married 8 years, so he feels this is very charitable) for 6 years. The reason for the alimony is that I had a year left of school to go when he left, and I asked if he would give me extra money so I could get on my feet, as I have not a dime to my name. (I didn't know about the extreme debt when we had this conversation.)So, I have no degree and have been a stay-at-home-mom for 6 years. Bleak career outlook.
The total support comes to about $3400/month, which sounds great, although he is unwilling to share any of his 401k/retirement/stock assets. I was ready to sign the agreement when my atty stopped me and said I could not possibly live on this amount because of the $50,000 in debt I'd be paying. With rent, utilities, car insurance, childcare so I can work, and everything else that comes with raising a child, there's nothing left. There is no money to put aside, either, so when my car breaks down, for example, what then?
The stbx husband says he will take this to court because he thinks a judge would grant less. I don't know who to believe. I don't know if he's just trying to scare me into backing down or if my atty. is right.
If anyone has any thoughts, please share them. If you want to criticize something I've said, please be gentle. I'm breaking apart.
Thank you.
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Desperately Seeking Help
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EndofRope
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10/29/08 12:13 PM
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11/05/08 09:56 PM
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10/30/08 01:38 AM
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10/30/08 03:10 PM
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10/30/08 07:05 AM
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