fruststepdad
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Cell phone usage
02/20/09 01:14 AM
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I'm sure this will become an issue as children and parents become more flexible with technology.
My wife's child is soon to be a teenager. We had already set the rule that no cell phone until we saw an improvement in being responsible. We have given small chores, laundry, dishes, etc. to which these can't be done without a constant reminder.
Now, we are dealing with the child on going out and getting a cell by herself. It was a pay per use phone and it only texted (calling was broken). We explained that since she used her own money on the calling card that once it was up....no more phone. She then went and explained to her father and he purchased a full cell for her. Calling, media, email, text... you name, she received it. Now for us on the other end we have no idea how many minutes or anything other that what I just typed. So we told her that the phone should only be used for emergencies, you must get permission before texting to a person (permission from the recipient). She then started receiving phone calls from an adult male. She claims she doesn't know but has given this individual information (she is just a child). We then told her do not answer the phone. If the cell rings, wait for a voicemail (if one) then call the person back on the land line IF you know who it is.
She then tells the dad in a pity way and now we have him screaming at us. He doesn't understand that she is still a child, even though she maybe turning into a teenager. Her mind has not developed enough to know who can be trusted yet and how to handle certain situations. Cell phones are not allowed in her school in which he has told her she can take it and also screamed at us about that issue as well. His reasons in getting the cell were many... but the one he kept going back to was that he wants to be able to talk to her whenever he wants or chooses.
To give a small background on what type of father he is...
- Dr's orders he refuses to follow and forces her to eat foods that Dr has said not to.
- Also forgets to give his child regular meds on a regular basis.
- Never calls to check on his child, only to scream at us when he chooses.
- State order child support over 15000 in back support.
- Doesn't file taxes so the IRS can't pull them for support.
- Get's paid under the table, therefore he pays what he thinks is owned to his support.
- Doesn't carry insurance and doesn't pay his part of insurance that we have to carry (co-pays).
- Doesn't have a bed for his child to sleep in.
- Works at a beer/tobacco drive-thru to where when child is visiting can "work" with dad. YES, hand out beer!
ALL of this information has been through the court. He has been in contempt with his child support before. This was because he "forgot" to pay it, for 6 months. Smacked on the wrist paid half and went home. Quit his job that the state was pulling his check to start his current job of making more money, to be paid under the table.
Any ideas on what we should do or what we have a right to do in regards to the cell would be appreciated.
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