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How soon is too soon to cohabitate

02/16/10 06:01 PM

DAY 1-Children (ages 2 and 4) are told Mommy is moving out of family home into her own house (their first hint of parents splitting up.) Immediately Mom, Dad, and kids drive to "Mommies new house"; she signs lease & kids drop off a few toys. Kids return to family home with Dad.

DAY 2-Mommy moves all her belongings from family home to new house.

DAYS 3 through 12-Mommy picks up kids for a few hours almost every afternoon, usually visiting new house; involves kids in moving belongings of man with whom she was having an affair and intends to marry (reason for divorce) from his house to Mommies new house; divorce proceedings get underway.

DAY 13-Kids spend first night away from family home at new house with Mommy. Her lover is essentially living there now but Mom has promised Dad that he will sleep elsewhere on the nights the kids are sleeping over for the time being.

QUESTION: I (Dad) am concerned things are happening too fast for the kids' emotional well-being. Assuming an eventual 50/50 split between houses for the kids, how often should kids be sleeping there during this transition period, and how soon can her lover begin openly playing the role of Mom's new partner and sleeping there with the kids? The kids have known the man from Mommies work, but now he will be introduced as her new partner. I'm (Dad) saying this is way too fast...am I being selfish/jealous or do I have the kids' best interest at heart? Mommy wants them to spend the next 2 nights over there. Thanks.

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How soon is too soon to cohabitate	divorceme	02/16/10 06:01 PM
Re: How soon is too soon to cohabitate	Avaya	03/04/10 03:05 PM
divorce advice	lillyadams790	09/20/10 04:22 PM
Re: How soon is too soon to cohabitate	Debi	02/18/10 10:15 PM

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