The Psychopath
"Se will choose you, disarm you with her words, and control you with her presence. She will delight you with her wit and her plans. She will show you a good time, but you will always get the bill. She will smile and deceive you, and she will scare you with her eyes. And when she is through with you, and she will be through with you, she will desert you and take with her your innocence and your pride. You will be left much sadder but not a lot wiser, and for a long time you will wonder what happened and what you did wrong. And if another of her kind comes knocking at your door, will you open it?"
WOW!!! This describes EXACTLY what my ex (google "bellia66") did.
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The Psychopath Immigrant
Ref: bellia66 Martha Laura Granados - Martha Granados
She KNOWS she is a narcissist. She KNOWS she has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
I Know SHE knows she is a narcissist. She told me.
Her comment was: “One day I am going to change from one day to another, out of the blue, and I will turn into something else and I will be really bad. This is who I am.”
So she KNOWS she has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That is probably the reason why she wanted to (and did) study psychology in college in Mexico.
She made that comment a couple of weeks before she revealed her true self, her EVIL self. A couple of weeks before she revealed her PSYCHOPATHIC self.
She pretended to love me for three years. She constantly said that she wanted to be my wife. She wrote hundreds of emails saying that she loved me and missed me, now I know these emails were not for me but were written for USCIS to prove that she married me for love, where in fact she married me for immigration (this proves that from the get-go her intentions were to accuse me of Domestic Violence). She is a narcissist. She is incapable of love. She only knows how to use and abuse. The day she became her other self, her true self, the devil she really is, my mind could not take it and I got PTSD.
There is a law in this country called Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Under this law a woman can simply claim that she is a domestic violence victim and she gets all the help she needs: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…
She said she had used me and abused me. She said she would accuse me of domestic violence. She talked about it as if she was winning some kind of a game. She also called me a loser. She behaved like the NARCISSIST that she is.
This whole VAWA business is very funny. First they accepted her to the shelter without requiring any proof of Domestic Violence. Then they find themselves in a position that they must prove to immigration that there was violence. They do that by fabricating evidence and by keeping her and her children in the shelter for a long, long time. They do that to prove that she is afraid of her alleged abuser, where in fact the only thing they prove is that she is eager to get immigration.
She manipulated me with her lies and she ABUSED me. For 3 years I was helping her and her sons without knowing her true intention because she was deceiving me.
The Venezuelan friend (who used to be OUR friend) that guided her to claim Domestic Violence and to get to a shelter is her VICTIM too. She manipulated him to help her with her lies.
The social workers and the psychologists in the shelter are her VICTIMS too. She manipulated them to help her with her lies.
The Police, the US government and USCIS are her VICTIMS too. She is manipulating them to give her immigration papers with her lies.
This is how another PSYCHOPATH is becoming a LEGAL RESIDENT of this country.
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I am a very compassionate person and I have a lot of respect for y’all. I do not write about myself. I write about what a PSYCHOPATH IMMIGRANT women did to me. I am compelled to inform y’all of the kind of damage, abuse, pain and illness that this type of people (people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) can inflict on innocent human beings like our selves.
No. No vendetta against abused women. I helped an abused woman. I helped her more than I helped anybody before in my life. I gave her a home, lots of love, food, money, medical care and much more to her and her three sons.
Unfortunately she is a NARCISSISTIC PSYCHOPATH. Unfortunately I spent three years helping her and her sons before I realized there was something wrong with her. I also realize that SHE KNEW all along, so she had a plan ready for when I would find out.
The plan was: To make FALSE ACCUSATIONS of Domestic Violence against me, to get to a Domestic Violence shelter and to get immigration to the US in a FRAUDULENT manner.
Thank you so much for being sorry for me and for offering me support. It is important to help one another. I don’t think I am being selfish. I think I am helping. I am helping you by informing you of how I was abused. You can learn from it so that you can avoid a similar trap.
The picture I chose for myself IS REALLY ME. I chose a picture that expresses my true personality. I am a good, honest, giving, helping, innocent, naive person. Until recently I believed that most people were like me…. Well… at least good, honest, giving, helping and innocent. Unfortunately I met a woman who only pretended to be those things but in reality she is exactly the opposite.
The good things in my life: I am healing which is very important. I am making new friends and relationships, hopefully with good, honest, giving, helping and innocent people.
I don't see myself as a victim. I got hurt by a very sick woman (Narcissistic Personality Disorder is serious and incurable) and by a system who is full of people who take advantage of a Federal Law (VAWA) who is meant to help true victims, but instead they help lying and deceiving PSYCHOPATHS because they want more money, more Federal funds.
I don’t like being a victim and I don’t want to be a victim. I don’t gain anything from it. There is no Domestic Violence shelter I can go to. I want to heal from PTSD and I want to live a happy and productive life.
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This morning I spent another 3 hours thinking about it. Why doesn’t GO AWAY? Why do the thoughts keep coming back? When I think about it I get STRESS and pain. I am still suffering from PTSD
The thing that bothers me the most, is that 4 years ago I was looking for a WIFE. Instead I wasted 3 years of my life on a NARCISSISTIC PSYCHOPATH PROSTITUTE immigrant.
It is so DISGUSTING!!!
She knew she is a narcissist. She knew she has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). I know she knew she is a narcissist. She told me. Her comment was: “One day I am going to change from one day to another, out of the blue, and I will turn into something else and I will be really bad. This is who I am.”
She was fully informed of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) so she would do and say anything in order for me to marry her, and then build the grounds for her to accuse me of Domestic Violence knowing that she would not need to prove anything.
There is a law in this country called Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Under this law a woman can simply claim that she is a domestic violence victim and she gets all the help she needs: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…
So basically she PROSTITUTED herself to me for 3 entire years just so I would marry her. I feel so DISGUSTED by this…
What in reality happened was as follows: As soon as we got married she began the process of destroying and sabotaging everything around and between us. She created a conflict between her children and me by making her children walk with her on a regular basis telling them that I would not let her use the car. She did that so that they would fully cooperate when the time came to accuse me in front of the police and get to a shelter.
She had a problem though because she got accepted to the shelter, but when she got there she had no proof of any violence on my part because there hadn’t been any. What they do in this case (the woman and the shelter) is they utilized legal help paid for by the Federal Government as VAWA grants to write a petition for a Temporary Protective Order against me.
It is so DISGUSTING!!!
In my case the petition for a Temporary Protective Order ended up being dismissed because there was no proof of any violence on my part because there hadn’t been any.
I want these thoughts to go away. They are causing me STRESS and pain because am still suffering from PTSD.
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1: I meet her and she becomes very interested in me. She says she can adapt to any man. She tells me she is an abuse victim.
2: I want to help. She needs a house. She comes to see my house. She seduces me. We have sex.
3: I help her with groceries. After 4 months of helping her she gets her divorce. I help her and her 3 sons move to my house.
4: We live together for 3 years. She pretends (I am now sure she is a sociopath) to be the perfect wife.
5: I give and give and give and she takes and takes and takes. I give because she constantly says that her biggest dream is to be my wife. This was the deceptive mind of the sociopath in action.
6: I am deceived. My subconscious mind makes me act as if she really wants to be my wife (obviously she was only interested in what she needed: immigration for her sons and herself).
7: After 3 years of living together I agree to marry her thinking that I knew her, that there was some emotional attachment, not realizing that the narcissistic sociopath does not have feelings, nor emotions, nor empathy.
8: Immediately after we got married she shows her true self. She tells everyone: her sons, her friends, and her sister, how much she hates me. She abuses her sons and puts the blame on me. She reached her goal. She deceived me to marry her. She has no use of me anymore. She can trash me. (This is exactly what narcissistic sociopaths do: Use you for as long as the need you and for as long as you are giving. When they don't need you anymore, or when you stop giving they blame and accuse you).
9: I know nothing and understand nothing. I am not totally blind though: She is only interested in the immigration process and her sons are getting sicker and sicker.
10: I mention to her that there is something seriously wrong with her sons. She starts a quarrel. She leaves the house to go to the police to file a report. She calls the police a few more times until the police tell her she would get arrested if she calls again.
11: I file for divorce. She looks hard for a domestic violence shelter until Laura Mora of the International Women’s House, DeKalb, GA finally accepts her (You can only imagine what kind of lies she had to tell Laura Mora in order to be accepted, or maybe Laura Mora instructed her on what lies to say... who knows).
12: After a couple of weeks in the shelter she files a petition for a Temporary Protective Order. She signs a template that has every form of domestic violence in it and she adds that I tried to run her and her sons over.
13: In the court hearing only she talks. The judge asks her a couple of questions and dismisses her accusations. He knows she is lying. My lawyer (women) tells me the she never loved me.
14: A few days later the same judge grants me the divorce. He knows exactly what the whole thing is about immigration and not domestic violence. He doesn't care that she is not present in the hearing.
15: She is in a shelter. She gets certification, employment, medical and psychological care, free housing and much more. She has no proof of domestic violence though.
16: So in order to get immigration she pretends to be afraid of me. She is hiding and running from me. The shelter moves her to a different state to prove that she is afraid of me. In fact she is only proving that she wants immigration.
Think about it: Who has the motive to lie? Who needs something from whom? Think about everything I gave her because of her deception that I could have given to a good honest woman instead. This (Google bellia66) is an ugly, unattractive woman that I only wanted to help because she told me she was a victim.
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Still, A year after her false accusations were dismissed in court and the judge granted me the divorce, almost 2 months after she (and her sons, assisted by people from the shelter) broke into my home, every morning when I wake up my mind goes in to the same thought pattern:
How could she do it to me? When she needed help I helped her. I gave her a home, food, medical and dental, surgeries, cosmetic surgeries, nice clothes, SUV.... and she returns the favor with false accusations. How is that possible? When she needed me she was so nice. For three years she acted and then she turned into a devil.
After 3 years of her constantly telling me that she loved me and that her biggest dream was to be my wife I have to de-program my brain. I have to clean-up the mess she put into my mind and understand that everything she said during the 3 years we were together was a complete lie.
Having a business relationship with her sister and brother-in-law isn’t helping my healing. A year ago the conversations I had with them were key in discovering that Martha is an NPD. Now that I tell them that the information they gave me about Martha is consistent with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder they refuse to believe it.
Somehow I need to re-program my mind, erase the mess she put into it and insert the truth:
- She as a narcissist has a complete incapacity for empathy.
- She dislikes physical, sexual, and emotional intimacy. She took the sex we had on a daily basis as her job.
- My interaction (it wasn’t a relationship) with her, a narcissist was an appallingly toxic and bewildering experience.
- She as a narcissist is entirely about control.
- She as a narcissist is never whole without an adoring, admiring, and totally self-denigrating partner. Her very sense of superiority, indeed her False Self, depends on it.
- Her sadistic Superego switched her attention to me, the partner, to obtain a source of satisfaction and gratification.
- My predominant state of mind during the 3 years I lived with her was utter confusion.
- She idealized me for as long as she needed me and then she DEVALUED and discarded me like an object.
- Her core narcissistic behavior is to exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate and control. All these are forms of abuse.
- She as a narcissist is a master of abusing surreptitiously ("ambient abuse"). She is a "stealth abuser". You have to actually live with her in order to witness the abuse.
- She as a narcissist does not keep agreements, does not adhere to laws or social norms, and regards consistency and predictability as demeaning traits.
- I fell in love with an image, an act, not with a real person. It is the voiding of the image that is hard to deal with.
- I totally misread and misinterpreted the whole interaction (it wasn’t a relationship).
- Her suddenly revealing her true self after 3 years of deception is having pernicious and traumatic effects such as hyper-vigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), psychosomatic symptoms, shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, and an enhanced sense of vulnerability.
- I invested in her, a narcissist, which is a purposeless, futile and meaningless activity. To her, every day is a new beginning, a new cycle of idealization or devaluation, a newly invented false self. There is no accumulation of credits or goodwill because she, the narcissist has no past and no future.
- She has the emotional maturity of a child. She only cares about her needs and gratification. She is incapable of understanding human pain and suffering. She is not human.
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