shamrock1269
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Just retired, and returned, leaving again
07/21/10 10:40 AM
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I don't suppose I'm looking for advice. I just needed a place to vent.
My ex recently retired from the military and returned to the house we had built prior to divorce. He got the house in the divorce and was to have refinanced me off the mortgage and never did. It's in foreclosure, he hasn't made a payment in 3 years.
Took him a month after he moved back to be "settled" enough to take his kids for a weekend. He now takes them every other weekend, and has tried to drop them off early every single time. I just tell him I won't be home.
He's supposed to have them one evening per week. He's called several times to tell me that he couldn't take them because he didn't have any money.
He has no job. He retired from the military, and had nothing lined up. He's in arrears for $3300 in c/s so far, and $1000 in retirement. I filed to have the retirement pay garnished for my portion of it, no idea how much that will be.
My parents are helping out, I'd be nowhere without them.
He called me today, to tell me that he's arranging a short sale on the house, and that he's packing up some personal things and taking them to the area his mother, sister, and girlfriend live. This is 4 hours away. He tells me that he absolutely cannot take the kids because he has to do this right now.
Here's the issue....3 years without a payment on the house. 2.5 years away, and saw the kids for 5 days out of that time. But, this little move has to be done right now. BS.
I asked him to take the kids with to visit the family, can't do that. I told him to move the stuff on Monday, can't do that. Sounds like another scheme to get to the girlfriend, and blow off the kids.
He tells me that he's going to sell everything in the house...estate sale. I tell him that I'd like certain things. He says no, because he needs all the money. I remind him that he owes me lots of money, and he finally agrees to give me what I ask for.
There's 2 reasons that this is awful. First and foremost, my kids. They just got their father back, and he's leaving again. They've been in therapy, and will have to return.
My 2nd reason, is selfish. I've been living my life non-stop in support of the kids for 3 years now. I've had small relationships, here and there. Since he's been back, I've met someone, and would like to be able to have some "adult time". It seems that it's slipping away again.
Just a vent, and maybe more later.
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Just retired, and returned, leaving again
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shamrock1269
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07/21/10 10:40 AM
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