My ex and I have had joint legal/physical custody for the last 6+ years with nary a problem. In Apr '09, she was activated in the military (so she says) and just returned a week ago. In the meantime, I had remarried, bought an enormous new house only 3 miles from her, and have had our kids 100% of the time, less a few intermittent weekend trips my ex made home. She was deployed within the same state at a base in another city. Anyhow, she came home and said she is dead set on leaving in four months and taking all of our kids with her. She is moving to be closer to her boyfriend in another state, who is enlisted full-time military. She is home living with her parents, with no job, and finishing school. She then wants to leave before Christmas. She had told me initially she'd be gone only 30 days. Well, I was foolish and continued to pay her child support (I make more), not wanting to change things up for only a 30-day tour. And, 30 days turned into 17 months. I was given 12 return dates. I felt she was taking advantage of me. When she was gone, she told my son on several occasions that she could not come home because of weekend Air National Gaurd duty. I found that interesting considering she had told me she was on active duty. Further to that, when I wanted to move the kids on her insurance with "Uncle Sam (free)" she said she couldn't do that because she had a rolling 30-day deployment. So, I kept paying. It sounds fishy. My current wife also got deployed during the same month, but took an early hardship separation after 8 months to get back to her and my kids, and she had never heard of such contradictions. So, to point. My wife and her three kids have forged loving, powerful bonds with my kids over the past 2 years. They are all the same ages. That's total six kids. My kids do not know my ex-wife's boyfriend, nor do they have any appreciable relationship with him. He's got kids in a few other states also. Seems to be the "hitch-and-ditch" type. My ex has a child with him and they are not married. She is not sure what she wants to do when she moves to live with him, but she thinks she may go to OTS. She would first have to secure primary custody I am aware. Currently, my ex lives with her mother. Her mother and father would also be moving with her in December. A few weeks ago, before I knew she'd be coming back and using her mom's place as a "bus stop", I had enrolled the kids into school in my school district. The schools are rated much better academically (+20%) and safety-wise (25 violent offenses last year in the school I'm zoned for vs. 122 in the middle school my son had been going to in her district). I went to "fish out" a new school after an attorney-friend of mine told me that my son's current school had a lot of violence. I did my research, enrolled the kids the day I went to the schools to review them (this was a just in case and I had to act fast is what they told me as electives were filling up), and then met with my ex in person the next day and told her. She agreed the school moves made sense pending I send her the stats and the ratings and figured out transportation. Then, she went to the school and tried to reverse them the next day without telling me, trying to put them back in her mom's school district. They've been in her mom's district for the last several years because that was where the divorce home was and we were neighbors. We both haven't lived there for quite some time. I put the kids in my district because I want a better and safer education for them. When I confronted her about it, she told me she did not agree with them moving. I told her this needs to happen and since I had the kids during the first week of school and we couldn't agree, I would be taking them to their new schools and she can fight me later. She beligerantly yelled at me and told me I was being a jerk and not supporting her supposed active duty mission. It's gone downhill from there. Similarly even, my current wife went back to her ex just a few weeks ago also and enrolled the kids in our district in the same schools we are zoned for. They had previously already been attending one of the best schools in the city, but got rezoned out and a zone variance got denied. My wife's ex wanted the kids in his schools and my wife wanted them in ours. Yet, he conceded based upon the fact that our schools were superior in our district. My ex seems selfish. She wants her school district for control and Lord knows what else. So, back to the questions. How does her removal case fare. Any suggestions on how I should proceed?
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