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Spousal support for my Ex-H
03/28/11 04:54 PM
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Just wondering what to expect:
Getting divorced in Delaware (no fault)state, where the financial matters dont get started until AFTER the divorce decree is issued. Awaiting the decree sometime next week. I just wanted to see what you guys think is a likely scenario. Here is the background story:
-Married 9 yrs
-Two kids 15 and 9
-I have been the sole breadwinner since 2003 (Make a good income) but always been the higher wage earner before that.
-My husband has made several attempts at college courses over the years, but never commits, fails the classes then withdraws from school each semester ( he is in his forties)
-wouldnt get a job because he refuses to work for $7 per hour even though he has no college education. He is very skilled with his hands, but never had the drive to use it gainfully
-though he has been "at home" he was never a stay at home dad. Both kids been in daycare full time from the age of one before going to school. I still did major of cooking, cleaning, laundry, PTA and school activities
-drinks too much for my taste and we had 2 separate incidents of abuse last fall (prompted me to file D papers and modified restraining order)
-we're doing in home separation cuz he says he cant leave until his money settlement from me. Uggh!
Financial Background:
- zero equity in house ( mortgage and all debt in my name only, he has poor credit)
- he has never paid a bill in our relationship, and wouldnt even know where to mail the payments
-he would go to the [censored] in the middle of the day when I am at work and spend $300 at a time (financial infidelity)
-I make a decent salary but our living expenses eats it all up ( $1000 in savings and $30k in 401K)
- i pay all the bills, debt, child expenses, food etc.
My questions:
What are the odds of me having to pay him a substantial amount of spousal support while still paying all of our marital debt, child expenses, mortgage, EVERYTHING, while he says he cant/wont get a job?
I have no problem splitting the meager savings and 1/2 the 401k with him, but a new monthly expense like spousal support (with no new income) will break our family.
He thinks I will have to finance his life totally for the next 5yrs. I know this is a no fault state but the very reason we are splitting in financial infidelity on his part and abuse, its hard to believe that a judge will still make me pay him monthly on top of all of that! I pushed him to get a job or just finish school for so many years and he just wouldnt. I even paid his tuitions for him in the past. This just adds insult to injury.
FYI: he doesnt even want joint custody, cuz he's never been a "hands-on" kind of father. He's happy to just have visitation. I am fine with either way.
Please weigh in.
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