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annatof4
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Daughter and Grandmother issue

07/25/11 01:57 PM

My 16 year old Daughter is extremely upset with her grandmother. My ex and I had shared custody up until last year...when the daughter said that she wanted to live with me. HUGE battle to say the least. Ex's family was very negative, insulting and badgering my daughter over the whole mess. It was a very rough road, still kinda is.

Anyway, this past weekend, my ex's family had their family reunion. Technically my weekend, but daughter and grandmother are very close and grandmother requested that she go. After making sure daughter was okay with it, I said no problem and they left Friday for the reunion which was to be held about a hour and a half away. They camped out and made a weekend of it. Daughter called me yesterday (Sunday) bawling. Very upset as grandmother had made some rude comments to her. From my daughter, grandmother said she was a lesbian. Going on to make comments of the friends that she hangs out with, the way she dresses and not having a boyfriend. My daughter said that she was embarrassed as these comments were made in front of others and then they all chimed with their own comments. She said that she told them that she wasnt, but they just kept on with jokes and comments. I asked her what she wanted me to do. She said for me to come get her and take her home...so I did. I tried my best to console her on the way home. I really didnt know what to do or say since she has been so very close to this grandmother. I asked Daughter if she wanted me to talk to grandmother (I didnt want to cause more problems and wanted to respect her wishes). Daughter responded "I dont know". I talked to Daughter again this morning....still response "I dont know". Ive suggested that I or dad or step-mom talk to grandmother and no response.

Daughter has had emotional problems (since last year) and has been in therapy and on medication for depression. I have told the ex and his wife, and we all agree that it needs to be addressed....but, we are not sure how to approach it. Its like pulling teeth to get a appointment with the therapist and her next one isnt until next week. Do we, Let daughter talk to grandmother when she is ready? Talk to grandmother? Our concern is letting this fester up and not wanting to cause more problems with ex's family. Daughter can "shutdown" which I fear has happened. I dont know grandmother's side of it...it could be a misunderstanding. Yet, my daughter is upset. While her father and step-mom and I think of other solutions, I thought that I would try to get other suggestions.

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Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 01:57 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 04:36 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 06:48 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 05:45 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 06:05 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 06:58 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Avaya	07/26/11 08:43 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 09:21 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 07:38 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 08:04 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 07:45 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Buckeye	07/25/11 08:03 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 08:07 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Buckeye	07/25/11 08:14 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 08:17 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Buckeye	07/25/11 08:21 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 08:02 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 07:31 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Goodmom	07/25/11 06:59 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 07:35 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 08:31 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 08:38 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 08:47 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 09:03 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 09:42 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Avaya	07/26/11 08:50 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 09:26 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Avaya	07/26/11 10:16 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 10:51 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	ssmom79	07/26/11 03:58 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 04:08 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	DedicatedDad	07/26/11 09:48 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/27/11 07:49 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/26/11 11:42 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Avaya	07/27/11 08:25 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	kkimberh	07/27/11 09:03 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/27/11 07:47 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Buckeye	07/27/11 06:20 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/27/11 08:21 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Buckeye	07/27/11 11:38 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/27/11 12:22 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	jkeger	07/27/11 05:17 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	elliesmom	08/08/11 10:46 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	ssmom79	07/27/11 07:42 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	MrsB	07/26/11 10:04 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	MrsB	07/26/11 09:09 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	ssmom79	07/26/11 04:11 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 04:15 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 04:19 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	ssmom79	07/26/11 07:30 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/26/11 02:09 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	LexieBelle	07/26/11 02:38 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 03:33 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	MrsB	07/26/11 09:08 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/27/11 06:59 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	LexieBelle	07/26/11 03:44 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 04:02 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	LexieBelle	07/26/11 05:48 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 02:21 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/26/11 02:42 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 03:51 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Sherron	07/26/11 09:14 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 09:46 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 10:15 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 10:36 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Debi	07/26/11 12:22 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/26/11 12:57 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 07:58 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Tweeby	07/26/11 09:10 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 09:53 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 10:56 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 11:20 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	LexieBelle	07/26/11 01:52 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/26/11 12:22 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/26/11 12:03 AM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 09:40 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Goodmom	07/25/11 06:12 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 06:16 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Goodmom	07/25/11 06:29 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 06:36 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Goodmom	07/25/11 06:58 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	gr8Dad	07/25/11 07:34 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 06:54 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	DedicatedDad	07/25/11 03:45 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Avaya	07/25/11 04:26 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 06:19 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	SweetLight	07/25/11 03:13 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	asurvivor	07/25/11 03:21 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	Goodmom	07/25/11 02:23 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	annatof4	07/25/11 02:47 PM
Re: Daughter and Grandmother issue	joe_mc	07/25/11 03:05 PM

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