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Sexual Abuse
      09/06/11 04:00 PM

Hi I have an issue, my child (7 years old) was sexually abused by my stepson. Long drawn out traumatizing story but end result I didn't have the 12 year old arrested because he lives out of state and nothing would be done in his state or this one for that matter because he is a minor and a resident of another state. Also I wasn't going to put my child through a trial of testifying against his brother. Anyway, child went home to his state. In the home state there is a minor child (8 years old) as well also a boy. My husbands ex wife and her current husband are the parents to this boy. Since the incident the two have separated. She sent my step son to live with someone else, I don't know how that is even legal, but anything is better then her, and she has her son the 8 year old living with her. She won't allow the dad to see him but that is their problem to work out not mine. Here is my dilemma, which I don't even know if it is my dilemma but I need to sleep at night. The actual crime committed against my son was the worst kind. Without me saying it out loud you can figure it out. She currently informed my husband she is bringing my step son to live in the house with her and her 8 year old within a month. The actual incident happened the end of July while here. He did not go back to his state until August 10. He supposedly is in some sort of therapy but as the details keep coming out from my child, its quite clear that the issues the 12 yr old have run far deeper. Anyway, I can't consciously sit back and think its ok for the 12 year old to live with the 8 year old and child protective finds no problem with this. They also told me had he been arrested the charges here mean nothing to them. Mom will watch the kids. Now I am in no way advocating for the dad to get custody. I just do not want to see another child go thru what my child has been thru. There are other options, why can't Child protective say No to the two kids being together. They have the same relationship as my son and step son, they are half brothers. I spoke to Child protective in their state today I went as high as a supervisor, they told me 1-I have no business getting involved in this and 2- the mom said it will be ok. So when he rapes his other brother I am suppose to be ok with this apparently? I don't know what to do. This 12 year old who I love dearly has not undergone the proper help. He thinks he skated on this, and me and my family are left with unhealable scars and lives turned upside down. Can anyone give me any suggestions on what to do please? Where do I start? Who do I go to? And who the hell are they to tell me I have no business? It was my son!!! Thanks for any help.

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* Sexual Abuse billingmom 09/06/11 04:00 PM
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