Divorce Source: Thanksgiving and custody

Encyclopedia

Checklists

Tools

Downloads

Bookstore

Start Your Divorce Today - Premium Divorce Online

You are not logged in. [Login]
NEW USER Registration

DS Home · Community Forums · All Forums/Msg. Centers
NEW USER Registration · Search Community Forums · Help

Divorce Source Community Forums >> Child Custody and Visitation

onmyown_36
member

Reged: 08/04/10
Posts: 134

Thanksgiving and custody

11/20/11 10:01 PM

Need some sound advice. EX lives out of state. He is due to have Thanksgiving with youngest child(older two are over 18) this year. I have already agreed to allow him extra visitation of Wednesday through Saturday. I did request returning on sat over sunday due to the high traffic and wanting to have a dinner at my house for the kids on Sunday.
Now the 18 year old wants me to change the plans and come back sunday so he can hang with friends sat night up at his dads. I explained the reasoning again to him.. Then he asks yet again and says he is just going to take his own vehicle so he can wait and come home Sunday. Well that would be fine if he had enough experience to make that drive alone..... plus I spent practically every dime I had earlier this fall fixing up that car. It is not horribly reliable, has a large number of miles on it and needs new tires. I told him I disagreed but it was his decision - he is 18. Making sure he realized "this" bank is bankrupt. So do I just leave it and let him deal with the consequences? Or do I put all of their safety first and alter my plans (again....common theme in this family) The original plan was I take them up to meet ex on Wed and pick up Sat. Now it is son drives tuesday, I drive and drop off youngest Wed. I pick up youngest Sat and 18yo drives home Sunday. I've put my foot down about not allowing youngest to drive with him. I think it would be ok, but if he did break down the last thing he needed to worry about was a little kid in the car.

The last option would be for me to say screwit you win,. I'll take them up tuesday and pick up sunday and say screw Thanksgiving.

A slight backstory- we got into this summer over that I was more concerned with my vehicle than seeing the som that was living there...bc I couldn't make the trip as much as he wanted.I know this is where this conversation will end. It is not a case of if I WANT to do these things but what is best for safety, wear and tear on vehicles...long term stuff. His vehicle may not break down in THIS trip but when it breaks down next week on his way to class...guess who gets to bail him out?
I hate this stuff and ex will not talk to me about it..he'll only talk to the kids.

Post Extras

Entire topic
Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Thanksgiving and custody	onmyown_36	11/20/11 10:01 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Avaya	11/21/11 11:45 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	SRS	11/21/11 06:17 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	onmyown_36	11/21/11 07:22 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	gr8Dad	11/21/11 01:11 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Avaya	11/21/11 11:48 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Cassie23	11/22/11 11:27 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	onmyown_36	11/22/11 04:06 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Cassie23	11/22/11 05:10 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	onmyown_36	11/23/11 10:03 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	buckwheat	11/22/11 04:09 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Tweeby	11/21/11 06:13 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Goodmom	11/21/11 06:07 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Cassie23	11/21/11 06:06 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Avaya	11/21/11 11:46 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	gr8Dad	11/20/11 11:31 PM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	onmyown_36	11/21/11 05:59 AM
Re: Thanksgiving and custody	Renny	11/20/11 10:46 PM

Extra information

0 registered and 6 anonymous users are browsing this forum.

Moderator: dsAdmin

Forum Permissions
      You cannot start new topics
      You cannot reply to topics
      HTML is disabled
      UBBCode is disabled

Rating:
Thread views: 2810

Jump to

Divorce Source Home

UBB.threads™ 6.5.1.1

Resources & Tools

	Start Your Divorce Several Options to Get Started Today.		Online Divorce Tools Keeping it Simple to Get the Job Done.
	Download Center Instantly Download Books, Guides & Forms.		Discount Books Over 100 of the Best Divorce & Custody Books.
	Negotiate Online Settle your Divorce and Save.		Custody Scheduling Make Sure You Document Everything.

Easily Connect With a Lawyer or Mediator

Have Divorce Professionals from Your Area Contact You!