I am done and have gone a little off the deep end. Tuesday SD was very rude and disrespectful, so I sent her to bed at 8 on the dot. (Her dad had to work late, didn't get home until 1 am). Yesterday she again was rude and disrespectful, it was raining and very cold here, she already has a sore throat, so I told her she could not go outside. She began to argue with me and even started to yell, I picked up the phone called her dad and told him that he needed to talk to his daughter, that she wouldn't listen to me, so maybe she will listen to you. She brought me the phone and shoved it at me and said very ugly that dad said for me to apologize to you. I said okay and she stomped of and went to her room. Never actually saying that she was sorry. My son was sitting there and he just looked at me and said, if that was me or my sister you would have killed us.
Later her dad came home and asked did she apologize, I told him that she just said that you told her to and she stomped off to her room. He called her in the room and told her the difference between saying you are sorry and just telling someone that someone told you to. She then said that she did say that she was sorry and that I just looked at her. H looked at me and asked did she, I said no. He said then, maybe you didn't hear her, I said no. SD then said that I was lying and that she did say it. I then went off the deep end. I told her that I was the adult and that she was lying and calling me a liar, and no one calls me a liar. I told her that until she tells me she is sorry for being disrespectful, lying and admitting that she lied to me and on me, that she can go to her room and wait for her dad to come home.
Now during all of this, my son was at church. I usually go and get him, but H asked if he could. I said sure, later I find out that he did so because he asked him what was said and what happened. I couldn't believe it, he first involved my child and also, didn't want me to go and get him (what in case I said something to him), I don't know I told him what to say? Unreal.
SD had been grounded from her TV for the week, he let her watch her TV yesterday, because she is going to be spending time in her room so this will help. I didn't say one word.
I am almost to the point that he can find someone else to take and pick her up from school. And when the get out of school for 2 weeks, he can find someone else to watch her, I am not. I am done, never have I had anyone basically call me a liar, over a child. He is an A$$hole.
Sorry I am venting and I know I sound so mean, but I am just so tired. I have nervous bumps all over me, and I haven't had them since I was a teenager. This is just getting to me and I cannot let it any longer.