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bacall
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perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married

01/11/12 08:33 AM

Greetings and happy new year to all.
I have what I suppose is an "unusual" topic for this site. As anyone who has been around for a long time knows, I have always been opposed to divorce. The fact that I do realize that someone who doesn't love you perhaps "needs" to be free of you doesn't help as much as I would like, but I do "get" it now -- only took a decade!

But, to the point -- does anyone have any good advice to give to someone who is thinking and talking about divorce -- to get him/her to perhaps think things through more, to think about the young children who will be ultimately affected? Any good website, sources, spiritual or otherwise? A close friend of mine has a grown child who is now contemplating divorce (male). She is still happily married (40+ years) and can't bear what is happening. She has asked my opinion and I'm somewhat of a loss (since I couldn't keep my marriage together, but I'm the only person she actually knows well who is divorced and has seen the"other" side of life, so to speak).

Other than the usual litany of how many people get hurt, try counseling, go talk to a religious/spiritual person, be supportive and listen, try to explain without being angry, etc, I don't have much concrete advice to offer since I tried several things (all of the above) and it didn't work for me.

Anyone have any ideas? Any and all suggestions would be appreciated.

The second part of my question is a personal one for me -- do you think anyone other than the two people involved can really stop a divorce? My friend thinks she can; deep down, I don't think anyone can. Just wondering what all of you think?

In the meantime, hope all is well with all of you and yours.

Take care, Bacall

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perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	bacall	01/11/12 08:33 AM
Re: perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	Curmudgeon	02/14/12 07:00 PM
Re: perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	yregna	02/06/12 02:35 PM
Re: perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	The_Wizard	01/14/12 02:12 PM
Re: perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	voltage	01/16/12 07:02 PM
Re: perhaps an odd topic here - how to stay married	NancyD	01/18/12 10:44 AM

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