SamsDad
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state coming for the big bucks...
03/12/12 03:25 PM
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So the ex is on state welfare...
back story...we moved to washington after my discharge from the army (honorable discharge). She promptly got herself on medicaid and put my daughter on it because she didn't want to split health care cost with me. I allowed her to do so and took our daughter off of our health care plan. Then she got knocked up by BF of one month and decided to go on state assistance (only because she "qualified" and not becaue she needed to) so that she could get free health care during the pregnancy AND a little bonus so she could stop working.
Now to the current situation...
The state of WA is now coming after me for child support because she submitted to the state that she wasn't getting child support but that she was supposed to be getting it. WRONG - when I was discharged from mil. we agreed that no one would pay support and that in the event one of us made more money than the other, a new financial arrangement and custody order would be filed with the courts - this is all in writing and approved by the judge in AK (our state of residence at the time and place our divorce decree was settled - and parenting plan). Well NOW the state of WA recognized me as the "non-custodial parent" even though we have 50/50 everything because I am the parent who should be paying child support and wants me to pay the state because she is not working and collecting state funding and in their words verbatum they "need to get the money we are giving her back". WOW. So then I find out that they based their numbers on our original decree (before we modified it with what I described above) and she did not provide them with the modification.
I re-worked the numbers based on her monthly state funding and my gross income and the number I come up with is way less than the number they want from me...WAY less.
So she stopped working in December - at that point I should have immediately modified our agreement to reflect her change in income but she never asked or said anything. Then I get this notice in the mail that they want me to pay the state and that I have to backpay to January.
So I just keep getting ****ed by this woman right and left. Her BF is completely financially stable and she is just milking the gov because technically she is a single mother of two now. She was on medicaid to avoid paying for health insurance and then when the birth of her 2nd child approached, she filed for state assistance.
So basically, if you look at the big picture, I AM PAYING FOR MY EX WIFE TO HAVE A BABY WITH ANOTHER MAN.
So she asks me if she can keep our daughter the whole day I'm supposed to get her so she can take her to a WIC appt. I said no because quite franlkly thats a whole DAY without my child and she has 2 business days with her that she could take care of that on her own time. I don't want her actions to effect my daughter but ALL of her choices do and she makes one bad decision after another and the only person it's effecting in a real way - a terminal way - is our daughter...is this who my child is going to grow up to be? Are these the examples that are going to mold my child? And when...WHEN will it be enough for a judge to say "hmmm I think we better change some things around here..."
Edited by SamsDad (03/12/12 03:28 PM)
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