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Some of you are awesome, thank you...
      03/12/12 05:10 PM

I know, I am back right. I read what everyone said. Everyone. Am I putting ppl on ignore? Nah, I can take it. Really, I think. Maybe. I don't know, but I will try.

DH and I had two very intense conversations about this. Luckily lawyer had not filed and as of right now that is on hold. I don't know if I can clear up everything because I am honestly not going to go back and respond to everything that was said but I guess a few things stuck out that I did want to respond to:

Did I cause the marriage to end? No, DH and I did start seeing each other a few months after they separated.

Their divorce took 3 years. The first year was because she got pregnant with unknown father of her 3rd child and claimed it was DH's. Since her conception date with either while they were still married or very close to their separation date, state determined he was the father. Had to fight child support enforcements that kept coming because she refused at first to get the child DNA tested. Results came back negative for DH. She still tried to pursue child support claming tests were wrong. BM then had 2nd child into the 2nd year of divorce by her current husband. And was pregnant with #3 when the finalized.

Do I think I am better than BM? Ugh, no. Do I think I approach things better maybe make better decisions, me personally not DH, yes. She cussed at me and screamed at me last year in front of Skids. She cussed me out via text msg last summer. She straight our lies to me when I have evidence to prove otherwise. The ONLY time I stood up for myself is when she did it front of the skids. Yes, I let her know that I was not buying her lies. That was the only time. Every other time over the past 7 years that she lied, made snotty comments, or whatever I dealt with it. I did not mean by me saying we waited to have kids that we were better than her. I just found it crazy the GAL would punish DH because we didn't have a child while he was going through the divorce.

I think I handle BM well. Even today she started texting me about the custody thing after DH went to work. We had a decent conversation regarding it. No, she still does not want DH to get that much time in the summer, but we talked about it nicely.

Will DH leave me for a younger thing in the future? lol, no. We balance each other out well. Have we had problems? Sure, what couple hasn't. We had bad problems there for awhile but we worked through them because we are committed and love each other.

We might have to pay lawyer fees, we might have to pay transportation fees. If it happens it happens. Hopefully we can avoid that.

BM said she is working on her plan and we are waiting to see that before we do anything with the lawyer. Maybe it won't be so bad???? Maybe I won't hold my breath...

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* Some of you are awesome, thank you... Nicole 03/12/12 05:10 PM
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