tlescak
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Problems With Grandparents
02/28/06 01:46 PM
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I am happily married, so maybe this post doesn't belong here but I need feedback on my problem and this seems as good a place as any.
After my son was born 4 years ago, my relationship with my parents has deteriorated to the point that I have not spoken to my stepfather in 9 months.
When my son was born my parents made it very clear to my wife and I that their relationship with their grandson would not be compromised in any way. Including by any rules we may have concerning his upbringing. My parents have aggressive dogs, they also leave loaded handguns around the house and seem to have little regard for conventional attitudes towards child-rearing. This caused my wife (and myself to an extent) to be hesitant about leaving S with them. They immediately took offense at that. My stepfather made it clear that "noone is going to tell him what to do." well there were several instances where he was "told what to do" for example: He was holding the baby and not supporting his head, my wife told him to support the baby's head and he shot back with "Hey I know what I'm doing" and you could tell he was offended.
Next example: The kids (we also have a daughter) were playing in a sandpile in our yard. My stepfather was showing them how to throw the sand. I asked him not to show them how to throw the sand. He stormed off into the house and didn't say a word the rest of the night.
Next example: We do not want our son playing in cars or getting the idea that it is OK. A motor vehicle is not a plaything for a toddler. My stepfather took him to his truck to play, and when I went to confront him about doing something we specifically asked him not to do, he held up a video camera, apparently to tape my "tirade".
Next example: We made it clear to my parents (stepdad is a gun nut) that we do not want S to play with toy guns until he is old enough to know the difference between the toy ones and the real ones. This caused an argument that resulted in us not speaking for the last 9 months.
My stepfather obviously refuses to accept me as an adult at 36 years old. My parents refuse to accept the choices we make as parents.
My mother acts distant, I know she hates the situation as it stands.
I don't know what to do, except accept the things I cannot change.
Edited by tlescak (02/28/06 01:47 PM)
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