I'd be at the end of my rope, too in these circumstances.
Apparently, you both need as much time with the children as possible and that a new parenting plan needs to be implemented to accommodate BOTH of you.
Obviously, EOW is not good for either of you and especially the children.
There are several parenting plans on the www.FIRMncp.com site in the FAQ's that you can use as is or modify to your particular needs. I suggest that you be as nice as you were in your post with him and show him a couple of plans that you think may give you both equal time with the children.
You may want to read the www.DivorceAsFriends.com website to get ideas on how to communicate without pushing known "hot buttons." You don't have to buy the book to get some great ideas from the site.
Equality is not a difficult concept