In this case, coupled with a porn addiction, verbal abuse, being told to stop having them sleep in his bed so he finds a loophole by sleeping in their bed...I'd say there's plenty that points to a high probability that it's not just girls running around without clothes after getting out of the shower.
---> Not necessarily.
---> First of all, there have been many "discussions" over the years on DS on what is "porn". For some...it's Playboy, or it can be Oui and Hustler and yet for others, it only stuff you can find at your local "adult" store.
---> And let's not forget that the "standards" of "acceptable behavior" for "divorced" parents are different than for parents of "intact" families. And those "standards" for "divorced" parents are also different for mom vs dad.
---> As parents in an "intact" family...we are allowed to question our children; it's "ok" if our young children crawl into bed with us when they are ill or scared or lonely and "ok" if we crawl into bed with them when they are ill or scared or lonely; it's also "ok" if we take "casual" pictures of them.
---> But then we get divorced and suddenly, what once was is no more. We are afraid to question our children for fear we will be accused of being "nosey" or "controlling"; a father taking pictures of his young daughter playing "topless" in the backyard or of "sleeping" with her can be accused of being a "pedifile", while no one thinks twice if it is the mother. Along the same lines...if a four-year-old boy tells his mother that it itches between his legs, no one thinks anything of it if Mom checks, but if a four-year-old girl tell her father thit it itches between her legs, he is expected to have another female check or be "suspect".
---> Before ANYONE defends or condems, I think it behooves us to find out EXACTLY what the ALLEDGED actions are.
---> Let's start with the pictures. According to the poster, the picture taking started after she left the marital home...approximately two years ago when the girls were four and five. Questions: Were so-called "naked" pictures of the girls taken BEFORE you all separated? Were these the only "kind" of pictures your ex-husband took of the children? Have you taken any so-called "naked" pictures yourself?
---> Sleeping with the children. Did the children ever sleep with you all BEFORE the divorce? Did either your or your ex-husband every sleep with the children BEFORE the divorce? Have you ever had the children sleep in your bed SINCE the separation/divorce? Have you even slept in the children's beds SINCE the separation/divorce?
---> Porn addiction. What kind of "porn" are we talking about?
---> Sorry...gotta go.
If you air your dirty linen in public, expect people to comment on the skid marks!