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#227513 - 05/09/07 03:42 PM What he sent
MommyAlisha Offline
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This is what email ended up sending to the mom:

M I am wondering if you can help supply formula for C. I am not asking you to buy it. I am only asking that you give me a few cans that WIC supplied. It would help out a lot.
Also I contacted the parenting classes. There is no fee for you. All you have to do is show them your medical card.
I am glad that you got to see C. Anytime you want you can come see him.

DH sent it to her at 11am this morning. We recieved the following reply about 10 minutes ago already:

F no I will not send formula there for C. The WIC is for here so it stays here. Even if I don't get custody back I will get visits. I will need the formula for when he visits sence WIC said I won't get it from there if the baby doesn't live with me.
I have decided not to take the parenting classes. the counceling and evaluation is only 15 minutes away so I will do that. The parenting classes are almost 45 minutes away and I don't wanna be stuck in the car that long. My mom is taking me to the counseling Sh*t. She said she would take me to the classes but screw that.
The baby looked good but you are making him fat and spoiled. You need to stop spoiling him because I refuse to when he is here.
See ya in court! i will make sure to tell them that you are turning my son against me. Bye!

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#227514 - 05/09/07 03:48 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
Debi Offline
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Oh boy! Okay first of all your H needs to go down to the WIC office and let them know he is not living with her. I don't know if HE can get WIC for the baby but I'd sure as heck try. Either way I'd make it known to them that he isn't there and hasn't been in however many weeks. If you have something from the court showing your H has temp custody then take it along.

I'd say to just be glad that she e-mails her stupid crap back to you guys. It will make a nice file when you get to court.
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#227515 - 05/09/07 03:50 PM Re: What he sent [Re: Debi]
MommyAlisha Offline
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WIC for may was picked up by her mom so they won't give us May WIC. They said that if DH gets custody the end of May, he can start getting WIC here starting June as long as DH has the custody papers to WIC before the 1st.

The mom has June WIC vouchers also but they are putting a stop to them if DH gets custody. not sure how that works.

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#227516 - 05/09/07 03:54 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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Good you guys were ahead of the game on that one. I don't know what else you can do, really. No one can force her to be a human being. No matter who has custody good luck for the next 18 years!!!!!!
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#227517 - 05/09/07 03:55 PM Re: What he sent [Re: Debi]
MommyAlisha Offline
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Thanks! We need all the luck we can get. It's in God's hands and the judge's now.

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#227518 - 05/09/07 04:23 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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The formula is not for her house it is for the baby, does she not understand that? Also premixed formula does expire, does she plan on giving it to him after it expires since it may be a long time before she can have the baby at her house again? Obviously she doesn't know the difference between loving a child and spoiling one, and baby's do tend to get a little on the fat side when they are properly nurished and cared for.

Her attitude about being stuck in a car for 45 minutes to get to a parenting class, shows that the baby doesn't mean as much to her as she does to herself. Without taking the parenting class she may never get unsupervised visitation. Just keep a log of when you have offered her visits outside of what the court ordered and if and when she does see him, the courts will definately be able to see that she is the one not doing what she can to see the baby, and follow the CO, not you and DH.

She truly is in a idiot and mental case. You and DH keep up the good work and keep loving the baby like you do, he will be the one to benefit from a loving and nurturing family, and will be thankful that ya'll fought hard for his safety and wellbeing.

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#227519 - 05/09/07 04:27 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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wow, print that stuff out!!! she is killing her own case.

Cinder

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#227520 - 05/09/07 04:28 PM Re: What he sent [Re: mommy2boys]
MommyAlisha Offline
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the formula is the powder. It is good for awhile upopened. After being opened it is only good for a month.

Apparently her selfish butt doesn't care if it's for the baby or not. She just wants to get back at DH for not leaving me for her and the baby.

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#227521 - 05/09/07 04:29 PM Re: What he sent [Re: Cinder2]
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We print everything out and keep it in a file.

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#227522 - 05/09/07 04:31 PM Re: What he sent [Re: Cinder2]
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I wouldn't even email her anymore. He's just asking for a fight if he does, even if he's being nice and generous. I think she has hung herself, so no need to continue contacting her just so she can provide even more evidence against herself. To be honest, I'd stop contact with her alltogether and just see how long she'll go without seeing or asking about the baby. At least until custody is established. Once dad has custody, then you all can send pictures and updates to her.
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#227523 - 05/09/07 04:41 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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Her true colors will shine bright in court and she will be sorry for what she has done, that is if she can take responsibility for her actions or lack thereof.

She definately has issues if she is going to take it out on the baby because your DH wouldn't leave you for her. I can definately see why he isn't with her crazy arse.

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#227524 - 05/09/07 05:17 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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Well, at least now you know why she's on SSI.

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#227525 - 05/09/07 07:01 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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How can someone turn a child against a parent when that parent won't even make the effort to have visitation to bond with the child? Good grief! Yep, it's HIS fault! Whatever! But make sure you print those things out and keep them on hand.

In the meantime, will the WIC office not GIVE you cans of formula? I know the WIC office here does. Even if you get vouchers, they will give you extra if you run out. Or, if you make an appointment but need some before that date, they will give it to you then. You might ask about that.

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#227526 - 05/09/07 08:55 PM Re: What he sent [Re: momx3]
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She's got some serious issues. I hope that she has no influence on that baby as he grows up. What a horrible role model.

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#227527 - 05/09/07 10:58 PM Re: What he sent [Re: MominNY]
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Even more curiously, I don't think it's possible to turn a baby against someone...

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#227528 - 05/10/07 12:45 AM Re: What he sent [Re: jil_stevens]
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[quote]Even more curiously, I don't think it's possible to turn a baby against someone... [/quote]


I was thinking the same thing. I could see it now

Baby: Goo Goo Gaa Gaa Ma Ma Aa Ss Ho <spit up>
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#227529 - 05/10/07 12:56 AM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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I would recommend that he follow the Court's order to a T right now in regards to visitation and the such. Let her make her own noose to hang in...she is doing a great job thus far!
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#227530 - 05/10/07 01:16 AM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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It sounds like she is very unstable. As dealing with an unstable person for years and just now getting the idea the hard way, dont contact her or rely on anything from her. My X didnt take the classes or anything so he has NO visitation except what I give him. Dont just keep the contact from her, keep what your H sends her too. That way the judge knows you didnt send anything inflammatory or anything like that. Good luck.
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#227531 - 05/10/07 10:39 AM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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" The parenting classes are almost 45 minutes away and I don't wanna be stuck in the car that long. "

I just love this comment. The class is 45 minutes away and she doesn't want to be stuck in a car that long but going to visit her friends wasn't a problem??? I'm assuming that when she went to Atlantic City, it was more than 45 minutes way? If so, you need to bring this up in court too.

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#227532 - 05/10/07 11:14 AM Re: What he sent [Re: mommy2boys]
MommyAlisha Offline
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[Quote]She definately has issues if she is going to take it out on the baby because your DH wouldn't leave you for her. I can definately see why he isn't with her crazy arse.[Quote]

The thing I don't understand is that she waited until 2 days after we were married to tell DH. We had been together almost 5 months. She knew for 3 1/2 months occording to her.

They only date for a very little amount of time. It's not like they were together for 6 months or a year.

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#227533 - 05/10/07 11:14 AM Re: What he sent [Re: Misslisa1017]
MommyAlisha Offline
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yeah! LOL!

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#227534 - 05/10/07 11:21 AM Re: What he sent [Re: momx3]
MommyAlisha Offline
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The WIC office does not keep the formula he is on there. They said they only have a small amount of 3 differant ones and none are his. Thery will not give us any vouchers at all because we can't sign the baby up until June 1st(if DH gets custody).

DH has worked a few hours overtime. That'll help. My neighbor asked me in church last night if I can watch her 3 yr old son next week from Tuesday to Friday because her husband is having surgery on Tuesday. He usually stays home with her son. She is paying me $100.00 to watch him Thursday through Friday from 9am until 5 pm. Give or take a few moinutes. Again that will help.

I talked to my mom yesterday and she is wiring $125 today. I didn't ask but she offered. This is the 1st time my mom has helped us financially. I have not gotten money from her since I was 19.

God is finding ways to help and for that I am gratefull!

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#227535 - 05/10/07 11:22 AM Re: What he sent [Re: Relayer]
MommyAlisha Offline
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[Quote]Baby: Goo Goo Gaa Gaa Ma Ma Aa Ss Ho <spit up>[Quote]

This is too funny!

We don't talk bad about her infront of the baby. I don't believe in it. I never have talked bad about my ex infront of my 3 kids. Not even in the beginning when things were rough.

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#227536 - 05/10/07 11:23 AM Re: What he sent [Re: tsl]
MommyAlisha Offline
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WE are following the CO but she is not. I agree that she is the one hurting herself.

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#227537 - 05/10/07 11:25 AM Re: What he sent [Re: Buckeye]
MommyAlisha Offline
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Actually her friend lives about 1 1/2 hours from her. Not sure how far AC is but I was told around 5 to 6 hours. She can only sit in the car that long if she feels she gets something out of it.

It will be brought up in court. DH prints everything for court so we have her email.

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#227538 - 05/10/07 11:58 AM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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I commute 45 minutes to and from work each day. So I laugh at that!!

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#227539 - 05/11/07 04:46 AM Re: What he sent [Re: MommyAlisha]
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"See ya in court! i will make sure to tell them that you are turning my son against me. Bye! "

Yeah sure - you just do that sweetie! The judge is going to love you! #1 a baby can't be turned against anyone, and 2 I think any issues she'll have with her son going forward are because of HER. She obviously is getting a nice headstart at damaging her relationship with her son all by her little ole self!

What a nutcase! If she doesn't end up living under an overpass someday it'll be a miracle.

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