And you're in a catch 22...you don't want to send food as you feel it is HIS responsibility and if he can NOT afford enough food for the weekend then he shouldn't be getting kid(s).
yet, you don't want your kid(s) to starve...you want them to be able to eat.
What do u do???
What I did, initially I asked him what was going on?? ie: loose job? unplanned medical bills?? Etc? I agreed to help ONLY temporarily. I would send 1 box of our healthy cereal, gallon of milk, some kool-aid mix, fruit, veges, meat, some snack food too...enough to get son (and that family which included another older child who's mom wouldn't send food, X, his GF and their baby...yes, I purchased formula and diapers for the baby)
However, just like everything and everyone else in his life (X's) he took advantage of it. I informed him once that this would be last time I would provide food. He would have to work something out as to how to get food for them. If he couldn't afford it I will send son after breakfast, pack a lunch for him and have him home at dinner (per my attorney). He could still get son on his weekends, just that he would have to bring him home to eat. he did that for a while. There were times when he would go out to his mom's and granny's to eat (and NOT take son!)...
It got to the point he would take son for a few hours and then not get him after bringing him home. He has dropped out again.
Duct tape can't fix stupid but it can keep them out of the way."