SHe has been living in TX all this time. She had family sending the letters from other states. And the reason we couldnt locate her before was because she got married and took his name. The boyfriend she referred to, I guess to throw us off (?) is her husband. We go to court at the end of June and we are going to try to go for 50/50 after being reintroduced to my stepdaughter's life. If not full custody. She has intentionally withheld this child from my husband. Our lawyer said after that, she has a good chance of losing custody and just getting visitation. My husband would rather do 50/50, but he is concerned she is going to do the disappearing act again. Woohooo. I am so excited. She told us she will fight us until we are penniless but I hate to tell her, my stabloes are worth over $100,000 themselves, not talking about my prize mares and stallions. So, if she wants to take it hat far, I will sell off most of what I own. The way I see it, my husband and I are in together for the long haul. The stables are in my name and I owned them before we got married but I will do whatever it takes to help my husband. Whoooo. That is a relief.