Sorry for the delayed response.
She and her mother were upset because I didn't continue to pay her bills when she moved out and in with her parents/boyfriend. They said since she watches the kids 8 hours a day while I work that she cannot get a job because of that. They do have a point, that saves me $$$ because I don't have to pay money I don't have for daycare.
I was told that if I don't start paying then they will go to DHS and Families first and get daycare vouchers, food stamps, housing, etc. If this happens the state will come after me for reimbursement. But I have to pay for the rest of my life, not 18 years. So it was a threat. I wrote her a $400 check. It paid off her account which was -$300 because of boyfriends spending habits; leaving little room to pay her bills. Which apparently I am still supposed to pay after the $400. (I won't)
It sounds like no matter what she is going to take me for what I am worth. I just want out at this point so I can heal. It has taken everything out of me to keep trying these last few months. I dont know if it is worth it anymore. I know it is not and I am coming to terms with that. But so long as I have to pay her, it will never be over. I don't want to see her except when I drop off the kids and pick them up. Even then I dont want to hear a word out of her mouth.
This stuff aint easy. Marriage...wont make that mistake twice.
(Sorry for the dark humor, seems to be all I can produce lately)
Edited by applejuice (06/24/10 03:59 PM)