I'm currently starting down the barrel of a divorce: In-House separation, She's seeing other people, has spent the night with other men behind my back (before she ever mentioned the separation) including my best friend. (2 girls aged 2 and 4). I wanted to try to work it out but she insists on divorce and won't go to counseling unless its court ordered. She had physically cheated on me before we were married but she insists she hasn't actually had intercourse with anyone since we were married. It seems every year at this time she has a huge blow-up. I just don't know what to do, I love my wife, we've been married for five years and we dated for 6 years before that(off and on, with the cheating and all). I'm sure that if I wait she'll come back, I just don't know if I should be running away when she does. Does this seem like a situation that can be salvaged? I hesitate to mention, but she is an alcoholic I think (her mother is for certain). I mentioned it to her, and she responded that she had been binging but she was going to control it on her own.. Is this a lost cause, or is there hope that I can save my wife if not my marriage. Honestly, I'd sacrifice being married to her if I had to, in order to help her be a better mom to my girls.