What I've learned from some serious grandparent visitation experts is that you NEVER EVER EVER want to settle. Make the judge decide. And it is not true what a judge will decide will be more than what you would settle for. Grandparents have no inherent rights, and have to prove that not having a relationship w/ the child will be detrimental to the child. Is there a relationship there? How much visitation has the grandparent had in the past? The grandparent is never going to end up getting what the other parent would have had. That just does not happen anymore.
I love therapy. It's like a talk show, where I'm the guest and the only topic is me.